“If you commute to NYC,”
Why?
You have to, because of the bad choices you’ve made.
You’re an idiot.
You’re a Poser.
Your “Big Salary” gets eaten by the cost of living.
Better schools elsewhere.
The girls are really not that hot.
You’re greedy, but too stupid to realize you’re not getting ahead.
etc . . .
Took me 5 years to figure it out, back in the “Bad Old Days”, before I changed things.
Never looked back.
In my younger days I got a lot of job offers from New York City firms.
I told them—move out of the city and then we can talk.
(Interestingly, many agreed with my views rather than attempting to argue the point. ;-) )