Posted on 03/12/2005 2:53:11 PM PST by NYC GOP Chick
"Is SCANDAL no longer a word in the Catholic lexicon?"
Oh please, and not just you but to all the posters on this theme, after Teddy "the swimmer" Kennedy, John Francois, and all the rest of the pro-abort (and worse) pols? After all the child molesting priests? After JPII kissing the Koran? The Catholic Church should be worried about giving scandal because it performs a marriage, many marriages even, with pregnant brides? Give me a break.
I thought that was the point of all big weddings.
Yes, but by the sixth month it is US, US, US!
You know... it takes two to tango. If people don't want kids maybe listening to the Catholic Church ain't such a good idea and using birth control is.
Another option is to stop being Catholic if you can't walk the walk...
GIMME PRESENTS GIMME PRESENTS GIMME PRESENTS!!!!!
Boy, ain't it the truth??
I wonder if the bride has bothered to think ahead, say about 8 years ahead, to the moment when her daughter, flipping through the pages of family photos, comes across her parents' wedding picture, showing a very pregnant bride. Since daughters conceived out of wedlock tend to also get pregnant out of wedlock, the mother may not be so eager for her daughter to know all the details. These bulging brides are making a very large mistake.
That's something we've talked about, actually. We had thought about doing it last year for our fifth anniversary, but we had just had a brand new baby the month before, so that was out, lol.
I think it would be a great idea, and as a bonus, we could include our children when we renewed our vows.
Thanks for reminding me of that, y'all. :)
Yer mighty welcome!
But the sad reality is that these couples are usually not active members of any church before the weddings. In many cases, they scour around looking for any church, minister, priest, rabbi to perform a religious service. They just want the "old fashioned idea" of a big church wedding, but have shunned all other moral and religious traditions. And, after the wedding the couples hardly ever attend services again. Except, perhaps, a few return for the child's baptism, bris, confirmation, or on holidays.
I cannot understand their rationale. They flaunt their "modern attitudes," but they insist on the traditional blessing of a church. Why not just do this marriage with a Justice of the Peace, and leave religion out of it if you are not a religious person?
It is so hypocritical. For so many there is no scantity, no recognition of the spiritual union they are making, and no honoring of God for the gift of love He has given them to share between themselves and with a precious new life. It is just symbolic and materialistic. They are full of pride, self-importance, and an in-your-face attitude. It is just a sham, and very sad. One can only hope (and pray) that at some point they will return to their/some religion and re-evaluate themselves and their priorities.
I think its an lame effort for validation.
By going for the absurd notion that a pregnant bride should emphasise her pregnancy, she is attempting to hide her mistake in plain site. It is not unlike the old fairy tale of the emperors new clothes, the emperor realizes his mistake but finishes the parade anyways. A different lesson granted, but same concept.
I think you are 100% correct about photo albums in the future. You can not hide behind your finger.
From personal observation, so this is strictly anecdotal and carries my own personal observational bias, the young who are raised in the church graduate high school and go away to college. It is very rare for even the very religious to keep up with regular sundays. They generally return to the church when they are marrying and then fade away from regular attendance until the children are born. Then they tend to get back into regular attendance.
Your two points are very valid. I think they want the trappings of a traditional blessing as a "sanction by association." As long as they don't try and pass their mistake in timing as a good thing, I don't have a problem with them trying to do the right thing PROVIDED their attitude is "go forth and sin no more."
Some of them may not understand the "why" they are seeking out the church, but some WILL get it, some will know they are trying to make right in a wrong situation. It the situation of the farmer with the seeds. (farmer scaters seeds all over the place. Some land in rocks and do not grow, some land in rocky soil and only some grow, and some land in fertile soil and grow.)
You never know who will grow and "get it", but you have to try. (or is that you have to have faith?)
T\he part about this whole thing that is interesting is reference "Unborn Children" by the NY Times. I thought they were fetuses with no human attributes. Have the hateful neo-con antichoice bigopts invaded the NYTimes as well?
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