Here Comes the Mother-to-Be

NY Times ^ | 3.13.2005 | Mireya Navarro

[cyborg]

LOL!

[Darksheare]

I wonder how many of these marraiges are going to last.
How many of these are the guy saying, "I really want this woman" and how many are "oops, now ya gotta marry me."

Unfortunately for men these days, the "I have to do right by her" is less in the mental makeup.
What is more on their mind these days is "How long can I string her along and is her friend interesting at all?"

Of course, that may just be my local area.

[Slings and Arrows]

LOL!

:-) On second thought, maybe "short fiction."

[Jeff Chandler]

I always thought that the time a young couple spends together prior to the children arriving as the cement to help lay a strong foundation in the marriage.

It can be.

All of this would be a moot point if women had higher standards for men, such as expecting them to wait until marriage to have sex.

Stupid liberal ideas produce bad results.

[SuziQ]

I always thought that the time a young couple spends together prior to the children arriving as the cement to help lay a strong foundation in the marriage.

From the article, it sounds as though most of these couples have been playing house for a while anyway, even though it doesn't prepare them for true commitment

[mlmr]

All of this would be a moot point if women had higher standards for men, such as expecting them to wait until marriage to have sex.

Stupid liberal ideas produce bad results.

One would always hope that the lack of children prior to marriage is due to abstinance.

[Jeff Chandler]

At five months along, she should never have been married in the Catholic Church

Too many priests couldn't care less about such things.

Many people get married in the church because church buildings make good backgrounds for the photos.

[mlmr]

From the article, it sounds as though most of these couples have been playing house for a while anyway, even though it doesn't prepare them for true commitment

You're right Playing house is not marriage.

If these young women find it important enough to marry in their respective denominations, it is sad that they do not follow the important rules of the denominations.

[exnavychick]

Of course, if they had a clue, they would have had a discreet service without the hoopla. Unfortunately, to many women, the party is more important than the marriage.

My husband and I were engaged when we found out that we would be expecting a baby. Instead of a big blow-out party, we decided to simply elope, lol. I don't think anyone in my family would have had a problem with us having the ceremony we had been planning, but I felt uncomfortable with the idea, for a number of reasons. Sure, sometimes it bothers me that I didn't have a fairytale type wedding, but six years later, I'm still married and have more children with my husband. THAT'S what really matters.

[BellStar]

You all know this. Church's are Hospitals for sinners not country clubs for Saints. Happy no rejoice over these women getting to the church on time. Shame on you who are so perfect. I'm still a work in progress don't get it right too often. I am still working on my Christian walk.

[Ole Okie]

the "I have to do right by her" is less in the mental makeup.

And a father holding a shotgun is seldom seen.

More's the pity.

[Texas_Jarhead]

it's a "baby" when it is known that it will not be aborted otherwise it is a fetus or the like

[Darksheare]

Yes.
Of course, there's also less of a stigma on committing adultery and getting caught these days as well.
So marraige isn't viewed as sacred either.

So even IF dad was there with a shotgun, it's not a gaurantee anymore that either of the subjects in the marraige will remain faithful.

[cyborg]

I didn't say I was perfect. I do know if I was big belly, I'd not be prancing down the aisle in a white dress so big and proud.

[kstewskis]

Unfortunately, to many women, the party is more important than the marriage.

Very sad, and very true. I've seen more good men ruined by immature women, because they put more into the wedding, but invest nothing into their marraige.

And women wonder why so many guys are gun shy??

[Cicero]

Better late than never. With abortion on demand, you have to respect somebody who chooses to have the kid and get married as well.

But I'm not sure why it needs an article in the New York Times, a fancy white wedding dress, or a large, formal wedding. A quiet wedding would have been better.

[nmh]

Just wait ... one will give birth while exchanging vows and I'd bet ya, the bride would view it as a "beautiful experience to share with the congregation". Can't you just see it, dress up, legs ... you know, no pain medication and there comes the new edition.

[crazyhorse691]

I guess I better start carrying my stepfathers medical bag(the one with the spoons and someother stuff I can't identify) just for such happenings...or extra cassettes:-)))))

[Celtjew Libertarian]

Some are not aborting and some are getting married. But it actually sounds like the reason for the big wedding is ME ME ME!!!

I thought that was the point of all big weddings.

[stopem]

I remember when people had children shortly after a wedding they would be having a "premature" 7LB baby.

Now they don't even bother to hide the fact. Thank hollyweird for this sick lack of morality, so many preggie stars who take pix of their bare bellys. Like someone really wants to see that.