The studies of grandparents and single mothers raising children are pretty conclusive. It damages the child (lesser outcomes than children raised by 2 parents). What this mother did for her child was the greater love. She did what was best for the child.
Show the studies. Especially about grandparents.
DH and I adopted our granddaughter after taking a year of legal struggle to get custody another year and multiple thousands of dollars to adopt. She lived with her drug addicted birth mother moving in with a series of drug dealers every few weeks. Our son who fathered the baby is no better. I am 55 years old with a 5 year old child and blessed. I think grandparents adopting and raising a little one surrounded by love is the best option. I could never let a stranger raise my grandchild as long as I have breath. I do not think we have damaged her at all raising her as grandparents and now legally mom and dad.
That may be true (across all families throughout the U.S.) - I would assume that the "stain" of illegitimacy would tend to cling to such a child (as opposed to one adopted out) - but I would still focus all of my efforts upon retaining the child in our family.
Regards,
>> The studies of grandparents ... raising children — it damages the child...
Not to dismiss your 2-Parent point, but the generality of “the studies” is BS. And you’d admire those I’m defending against “the studies.”