Skip to comments.NCAA OKs $50,000 raised by FM grad for lesbian Canisius teammate disowned by parents
Posted on 11/19/2018 3:22:39 PM PST by yesthatjallen
Shortly after moving back onto campus in August, Emily Scheck saw that she had several text messages from her mom. The sophomore, a cross-country runner for Canisius College in Buffalo, New York, looked down in horror. She was getting disavowed by her mother for being a lesbian.
Her mother had found photos on social media of Scheck with the woman she is dating and was apoplectic. Scheck had not come out to her parents, as she feared they wouldn't accept her sexual preference, according to the Griffin, the Canisius student newspaper. As first reported by the LGBT sports website Outsports, Scheck allegedly was faced with an ultimatum from her family: leave school, give up her partial scholarship and return home to Webster, New York, to go through therapy for her sexual orientation, or she would be cut out of their lives for good.
When she indicated to her parents that she was staying at Canisius and had no interest in therapy, her father drove 85 miles to drop off her belongings, from clothing and stuffed animals to trophies and even her birth certificate. He reportedly dumped her things in her car and removed the license plates. The family had already removed her from their car insurance plan, according to Outsports.
"Well, I am done with you," Scheck's mom texted her daughter, the Buffalo News reported. "As of right now, declare yourself independent. You are on your own. Please don't contact us or your siblings."
Scheck needed to know: Why was this happening to her?
"Because you disgust me," her mother allegedly replied.
With only $20 to her name, Scheck was desperate, working two part-time jobs while attending class and cross-country practice.
"I never would have guessed in a million years that this was something that was going to happen to me," she told the News. "My roommates, they started crying. Me too."
When a roommate launched a GoFundMe campaign this month to raise money for Scheck to eat, live and buy books for the semester, the fundraiser generated tens of thousands of dollars in days. As of early Monday, the campaign, which had an original goal of $5,000, had raised more than $58,000 since Nov. 7.
But the 19-year-old faced with another ultimatum last week, this time from the NCAA: Give back the online donations, or keep the money and lose her eligibility for college athletics. She felt she had no choice but to give up her eligibility
On Friday, the NCAA, which has long fought active student-athletes receiving any outside financial contributions, made a rare reversal: Scheck could not only keep the donations but maintain her eligibility.
The weeks that followed her family's actions were rough. Unable to buy books, she had to borrow them from friends to study. It was hard to find a place to park her car without getting towed. And figuring out how she'd eat was a daily struggle.
"I couldn't even get groceries, initially," she told the News. "I was just really relying on my roommates and my girlfriend."
She told her coaches of the situation, Outsports reported, but months went by without a firm plan for how she would find housing and money for food. That's when Fayetteville-Manlius High School graduate Grace Hausladen, a roommate and teammate, launched a GoFundMe campaign in hope of getting financial support for her friend. Hausladen knew there was some recent precedent for successful campaigns based on college athletes in difficult life situations. She pointed to the head injury suffered by Tennessee State football player Christion Abercrombie in September, and the NCAA later approving one of the GoFundMe accounts set up for his medical fees, the Griffin reported.
"She was kicked out of her home for being herself," Hausladen wrote. "No one deserves to have their home and siblings taken away from them for being their true selves. Though she has made a new home in Buffalo through her teammates and her girlfriend, Justyna, we can no longer stand by and do nothing." She added: "This should not be happening in today's society. Help her feel accepted. Help her feel like herself."
Almost instantly, the campaign was a viral hit and initial fundraising totaled $25,000, more than enough to get her through the fall semester.
The campaign's success got the attention of the NCAA and Canisius, which led to the choice of either giving back the money or losing her eligibility. It was a choice also given to Hausladen. By last week, Scheck's story had been shared across social media, with people both encouraging her to remain positive and pressuring the NCAA and school to rule in her favor. The public support apparently paid off.
"Canisius and the NCAA will continue to work together in support of Emily," the university said in a statement. "She is a member of the Canisius family and we will to do whatever we can to assist her."
I have no problem with people reaching out to someone in need.
The NCAA is usually a bunch of jerks about money issues when they dont get their cut. The NCAA is worse than the mafia.
And the point of this post is ??
I wonder how true this is.
As a parent I couldn’t imagine taking this extreme a position. OTH, I’d be mighty pissed about it if I’m seeing articles and postings and I don’t know anything about it already. In this case, with a 20 year old you, it seems to me, have to hate the sin and love the sinner. To make it personal, throw in my awful illness, and there’s no way I’m casting loved ones aside. I’m loving them all day for each and every day I still got coming to me. And not ever letting go until I can’t hold on anymore.
Let’s wait to hear the whole story. I can “claim” many things, doesn’t make then true.
She was kicked out of her home for being a dyke.
Go fund me proceeds are income and taxable
Maybe off-topic, but I don’t understand why GoFundMe proceeds are not taxable income to the recipient. 40K to this person, 500K to the homeless scammer and his homey accomplices, and I have to worry about whether my social security will be taxed? Makes no sense.
My folks used to have a saying for me when I did something dumb: you made your bed now you get to lay in it. Pun here?
$50K can’t cover the heartbreak this young lady must be going through. Leaving her on the curb when she most needs love is a horrible way to handle the situation.
sounds like an exaggerated story designed to tug heartstrings and make money.
BS meter pins high.
Yep, this story stinks.
I am sure the parents would love to welcome their daughter that was "kicked to the curb".... when she repents.
The reason this degeneracy takes hold in society is because people hold their nose while the degenerate defecates on Christian piety, commands, and morals.
Taking a stand (Like the female who sides with cunnilingus on her girlfriend over the 4th Commandment and several other commands by God) which her parents did, is a positive, not a negative in tackling this debased entitlement syndrome society is being dragged down by.
God would not be pleased (Refereed to same sex sexual relationship in the "Old" and "New" Testament as against nature and His will) parent embracing their daughter's perversion.
Nice too that her parents' residence and places of employment have been doxed./sarc
The parents will regret this one day.
It is simply nutts that athletes on scholarship aren’t paid.
You’re making a big leap there aren’t you? How do you know it’s even true?
Wouldnt be surprised if there are some key elements left out of this story. Havent heard the families side.
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