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A Middle-Aged Career Woman on the Lies of Feminism She Learned Too Late
The Daily Signal ^ | November 27, 2018 | Dennis Prager

Posted on 11/29/2018 12:54:27 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Every Wednesday, the second hour of my national radio show is the “Male/Female Hour.” A few weeks ago, a woman named Jennifer called in.

For reasons of space, I have somewhat shortened her comments. Every young woman should read them. This is precisely what she said:

“Dennis, I want to get right to it. I’m 50 years old with four college degrees. I was raised by a feminist mother with no father in the home. My mother told me get an education to the maximum level so that you can get out in the world, make a lot of money. And that’s the path I followed. I make adequate money. I don’t make a ton of money. But I do make enough to support my own household.

“I want to tell women in their 20s: Do not follow the path that I followed. You are leading yourself to a life of loneliness. All of your friends will be getting married and having children, and you’re working to compete in the world, and what you’re doing is competing with men. Men don’t like competitors. Men want a partner. It took me until my late 40s to realize this.

“And by the time you have your own household with all your own bills, you can’t get off that track, because now you’ve got to make the money to pay your bills. It’s hard to find a partner in your late 40s to date because you also start losing self-confidence about your looks, your body. It’s not the same as it was in your 20s. You try to do what you can to make your life fulfilling. I have cats and dogs. But it’s lonely when you see your friends having children, going on vacations, planning the lives of their children, and you don’t do anything at night but come home to your cats and dogs. I don’t want other women to do what I have done.”

I asked, “Was it hard for you to make this call?”

She responded: “It was. I want to be anonymous because I don’t want people that I know to really know my true feelings. Because you do act like ‘My career is everything. I love working.’ But it’s a lie on the inside for me. It’s unfortunate. I didn’t realize this until it’s too late. I don’t know if it’s too late. I would like to find somebody to go on vacation with.

“You have other concerns when you get older and you live alone. Who’s going to take you to your medical appointments? If something should happen to you, there’s no other income there to help you. These are things you don’t understand when you’re in your 20s because you don’t think you’ll ever get old and have health problems.

“I’m stuck now because I go to work every day. I smile like I love it, but it’s very painful to not plan a vacation with someone. It’s painful to not have a Thanksgiving dinner with someone. You sit home alone and you do nothing. I avoid my friends now that have children because I have nothing in common with them.

“Somebody asked me the other day, ‘Why did you stay single and never have kids?’ There’s answers: Because I was brainwashed by my mother into this. But it’s hard and it’s shameful to tell people, ‘I don’t know. I ran out of time.’

“There’s not a good answer for it except: ‘I was programmed to get into the workforce, compete with men, and make money.’ Supposedly, that would be a fulfilling life. But I was told that by a feminist mother who was divorced, who hated her husband—my father.

“She tried to steer me on what she thought was the right path, but feminism is a lie. That’s what I want women to know.

“I didn’t realize this until late in life. I want to tell women: Find someone in your 20s. That’s when you’re still very cute. That’s when you’re still amiable to working out problems with someone. It’s harder in your 50s, when you’ve lived alone, to compromise with someone, to have someone in your home and every little thing about them annoys you because you’re so used to being alone. It’s hard to undo that, so don’t do what I did. Find someone in your 20s.”

I said, “I’m thinking of transcribing your call and making it a column.”

“Do that, Dennis. I want to help whoever I can,” she said.

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TOPICS: Business/Economy; Constitution/Conservatism; Culture/Society; Editorial; Miscellaneous; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: careerism; careers; careerwomen; children; conservatism; dustinthewomb; feminism; loneliness; men; misandry; moralabsolutes; women
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1 posted on 11/29/2018 12:54:27 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

There’s a reason healthy skepticism is called healthy.

Accepting and adhering to whatever you’re told to do is risky even if it looks to be the safe, popular option.


2 posted on 11/29/2018 12:56:12 PM PST by relictele
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Feminism at its core is an anti fertility cult.


3 posted on 11/29/2018 12:59:13 PM PST by allendale (.)
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To: relictele
Feminist War On Love & Reason
4 posted on 11/29/2018 1:00:57 PM PST by Ohioan
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

https://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/3708762/posts

Posted on Tuesday


5 posted on 11/29/2018 1:04:11 PM PST by NEMDF (D)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Everything about liberalism is a lie, and liberals are liars. They are clearly, clearly of their father the devil.

John 8:44: Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

6 posted on 11/29/2018 1:04:15 PM PST by LouAvul (The most High ruleth in the kingdom of men, and giveth it to whomsoever he will.)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Gloria Steinem and her feminist apparatchiks destroyed a lot of lives driving men and women apart. I feel most sad for Baby Boomer women who bought into her garbage. Bitter lonely emotionally bereft women.
Boomer men like myself looked abroad for more traditional relationships.


7 posted on 11/29/2018 1:05:13 PM PST by Jimmy Valentine (DemocRATS - when they speak, they lie; when they are silent, they are stealing the American Dream)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
The money quote, “Men don’t like competitors, Men want partners.”

Duh.. And therein lies the reason so many guys have no desire to make a commitment: commit to whom— a competitor? Why would anyone do that?

8 posted on 11/29/2018 1:06:58 PM PST by hinckley buzzard (Power is more often surrendered than seized.)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
I’m 50 years old with four college degrees.

OK stop the tape right there. Why in the Wide World of Sports does anyone need 4 college degrees?

9 posted on 11/29/2018 1:07:30 PM PST by scottinoc
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Bump for Dennis. This lady speaks the truth but will anyone listen?


10 posted on 11/29/2018 1:08:59 PM PST by Yaelle
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To: allendale

She points it out perfectly. It’s a false image of what a woman should be. She is lamenting the course she chose for herself. Yet, she would probably do it all over again.


11 posted on 11/29/2018 1:10:07 PM PST by AppyPappy (How many fingers am I holding up, Winston?)
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To: scottinoc
Why in the Wide World of Sports does anyone need 4 college degrees?

To find one that was marketable?

I only have two degrees, undergrad and MBA. I'm also 38, female, single, never married, never wanted to be married, and quite content with my life. And I don't need to lectured by this woman on the mistakes she thinks she made. That's fine for her, it's not the same for everyone else.

12 posted on 11/29/2018 1:12:22 PM PST by DoodleDawg
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To: scottinoc

If you get an education “to the maximum level” (per the article), you would get a bachelor’s, master’s and Ph.D in a subject. She may have added on a law degree or an MBA.


13 posted on 11/29/2018 1:13:36 PM PST by Cecily
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

I like to think on quiet nights sometimes that...

The angry young incel males and the lonely middle aged feminist cat wives find each other when they are in their 40’s and 50’s. Then they have somebody to plan vacations with and take them to medical appointments.


14 posted on 11/29/2018 1:13:41 PM PST by L,TOWM (An upraised middle finger is my virtue signal.)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

For women...if you want a good man, get him in your 20s. Do not wait until your 30s. It will be MUCH harder. By your mid 30s your chances of ever getting married are vanishingly small. Nature gives you tremendous power from your teens through your late 20s. Use it wisely. Do not wait thinking you can defy the laws of biology and get the kind of man you’re going to be happy with after college and grad school and after establishing yourself in your career.


15 posted on 11/29/2018 1:15:22 PM PST by FLT-bird
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To: Cecily
OK, I sort of understand getting a BA, MBA and PhD, then adding a JD later. But 4 degrees? Just sounds like someone who is addicted to education. I don't know this lady, but I suspect that is a problem.

Also, this

That’s when you’re still amiable to working out problems with someone.

Obviously English wasn't one of her degrees.

16 posted on 11/29/2018 1:17:51 PM PST by scottinoc
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

That could have been written by some of my college friends. :-[


17 posted on 11/29/2018 1:18:06 PM PST by Cloverfarm (Pray for the peace of Jerusalem ...)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Find someone in your 20s. That’s when you’re still very cute.

She's right. Women in their 20s are indeed very cute.

18 posted on 11/29/2018 1:19:23 PM PST by Jeff Chandler (Every time a lefty cries "racism", a Trump voter gets his wings.)
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To: scottinoc

The more letters after your name the more dough you get...............


19 posted on 11/29/2018 1:19:53 PM PST by Red Badger (We are headed for a Civil War. It won't be nice like the last one....................)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

I have close relatives who fit that profile to a T.
I could never discuss that directly with them.
It would be too humbling for them, and too intrusive for me.
So we keep it light banter. “Hi, enjoy ‘the holiday!’ Bye!’
Nothing any deeper than that.

Many men also deal with the aftermath of putting off starting a family while you’re still young. Put it off until it’s too late. I count my many blessings each day, but that (the consequences of not starting a family) is what I’m dealing with right now.


20 posted on 11/29/2018 1:20:07 PM PST by lee martell (AT)
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