Posted on 09/10/2019 12:31:06 PM PDT by RomanSoldier19
A startling number of young women are unable to find a spouse, and new research from a group of economists suggests their would-be partners are just not up to snuff.
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Thank you for your story!
My right choice of a wife has been confirmed to me time amd time again through the years, as I encountered (directly or indirectly) former love interests. I avoided the control freak(s), the self absorbed, the hot tempered, the sex obsessed (that simply had to cheat almost daily), etc.
Just one month before meeting my bride, I had a date with what I thought was a real catch. Just 18, a sweet, pretty strawberry blond, about 5’9” 135#. The evening was going great. I was really impressed. But we had only been back at her apartment for maybe a half hour when she tried to take me down.
I got her to cool down a bit, and she admitted that her previous relationship lasted a year. ( the man was a 26 yr old divorcee, with a temper). She possibly would have been a good wife if a good guy could have got to her heart first.
At the very least, sex without committment damages a person’s self worth.
Once they hit the wall only then are they ready to settle for the kinds of guys they turned down in their 20s.
We're saying the same thing: "not excited by" == "ready to *SETTLE* for".
And often when they get married, they miss the thrill of getting pounded hard by bad boys, the BJs in club bars, etc. -- so they take their "look-I'm-a-Mom-too" kid and divorce-rape the guy.
Then discover, they can't land (or even attract the attention of for more than a booty call, only this time even SHE notices it), the bad boys.
About 10 years too late
Women won’t accept a lesser educated man who earns less than they do.
Men won’t accept a woman who has none of her youth left and who they think just wants to be with someone - not necessarily them.
Those tendencies are innate to each sex. You see those patterns in country after country and you see them persistently over time. It’s not anybody’s “fault”. Unfortunately, this does not match modern society or the modern economy very well. The result is low birth rates and declining marriage rates.
Still going on about the money? You do know there are women who are stable financially, self sufficient. It exists. They won’t be seeing you as a cash cow.
So they are looking for a rich, handsome, sensitive, strong, weak, masculine, diaper changer, who will watch "Friends" with her.
For marriage, yes. Men value chastity and beauty in women. Women value beauty, financial security and physical security in men. Men and women have different desires so I’m not sure why you find that dilemma surprising. For a short term fling, most guys could care less about your notch count. But women with higher notch counts are far more likely to end up divorced and cheat than those with a low notch count. I think if the divorce laws/courts weren’t so one sided, men would probably not care as much about how many partners you had previously.
It's strange being back on the market though in my upper 30s for the first time in 15 years. Definitely a lot of interest from women (decent looking, decent shape, make top ~1% money, etc) so far without even getting on dating apps but I'm sure a large part of that is my income as I'm certainly not Brad Pitt in his prime looks either nor great at the pick-up game.
Thank you for your input.. It is greatly appreciated!
Maybe doormat was a poor choice of words on my part. I’ve never been physically or mentally abused by a boyfriend or husband. They were always kind. They all said they loved me when they left. That I don’t have a mean bone in my body (this was before menopause. Heh.). I knew the relationships were over long before they were. They left me for women who had children. They needed someone who “needed” them. I think the main problem is I have a bad habit of living for the people/pets in my life. Maybe I didn’t want to outshine them or maybe it was more of a control issue than love. One thing I know for sure.. I got through it all with an ever-deepening faith in God.. I am so thankful for my many blessings.
Point taken.
Can’t speak for the other guys, but being single again has been great amazing. This year I’ve been to Copenhagen and Amsterdam on a guys trip, to Barcelona and Munich on another, to Savannah, to Louisville (bourbon!), to Los Cabos (w/ family), lake house trip next weekend near Charlotte and going to Jamaica later this year on another guys trip. And my after split net worth has increased by more than $100k this year so far and just got another 10% raise and increase in bonus/stock comp even after massive alimony. If that is misery, I’ll take an increase in 2020!
So true. Single motherhood was sooo trendy when murphy brown did it.
“And you’re a poor simp sap who thinks it will never happen to him, complaining about those who discuss unpleasant reality that occurrs to other people.”
I know all about marriage. My wife and I have had some terrible times and fights. But 90% of the time is great.
My wife bought us ringside seats to a Kiss concert earlier in the year but she came down with a serious illness and we both thought she was going to die she was that close. So I sold the tickets to a friend. That is live right there.
Have fun being alone.
Question for guys: what would you prefer as a wife: a high-paid career woman who may allow you to afford a bigger house and fancier car? But she will lose interest in sex shortly after the marriage.
Or a high-school dropout who would keep your house, cook your meals, raise your kids, and have sex with you every night, for your whole marriage? But your standard of living would be determined by just the husband's paycheck.
a high-school dropout who would keep your house, cook your meals, raise your kids, and have sex with you every night, for your whole marriage? But your standard of living would be determined by just the husband’s paycheck.
#2 for $100 Greg
Not accurately restated. 2/3’s of ALL divorces are initiated by the woman. In college educated couples the filing rate is 90% female.
It’s a farce to think that the filer is the cause of divorce however. If your spouse has abandoned the family for another person, drugs, alcohol or been sent to jail for a very long time (and is guilty as hell), you are very likely to be the one filing because they are busy with their new lifestyle. Who files first does not mean they are at fault.
It’s like people forgot that before no fault divorce 100% of the filers were the wronged spouse.
The nice thing about being single though is you usually will have kept up with your male friends much more than you would have and you can spend way more time with them. Plus, you can always have a live in girlfriend without the financial risks if you really want a steady relationship. If you hold alpha frame well enough and stay in shape you can keep that going for a very, very long time (decades).
Of the two choices you outlined, it’s not even remotely close. Other things being equal, I’d choose the high school dropout every time. I don’t know if hardly any man who wouldn’t.
Your flaw in your thinking is equating being alone with not being married. And the second flaw is that you can’t ever see any positives to it.
Most guys are brainwashed from family and school and society on to think this way. You’re no different.
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