As earlier noted, most of the gay razzing here is shorthand for "this candidacy is a non-starter because (insert 2,000 words re how sexual immorality ruins nations HERE)".
People are fed up with how the universities, media, the establishment and the Deep State are forcing this upon us. Stupid humor is a coping device for traditional Americans who are being politically oppressed by in-your-face disrespect and silenced by fascist regulations such as the ones we are concerned Buttigieg would increasingly foist on us, for example that bill circulating in the House right now that would literally cancel the First Amendment in favor of gays never having their feelings hurt.
Seems like, for your own reasons, you are identifying with Pete and taking 50 shades of sarcasm personally. If a comment is truly disturbing, you can flag it. Otherwise, it's the same obnoxious verbal jousting over any and all personal characteristics we all were surrounded by in middle school—braces, zits, skinny, fat, gay, etc—yet survived.
Your first sentence, I think you are exactly right.
But I don’t like the substitute of cogent argument or even witty humor with cheap homosexual jokes. I think it makes this place look idiotic.
I don’t identify with Buttigieg; I just cringe at middle school insults for his orientation. I disagree that there is anything noble or decent about it. I don’t think it’s an “identify with” thing, because I bet you don’t identify with the juvenile anal sex references you are defending, either, right?