Both of you, excellent posts. (( applause ))
Please bear in mind, there is a distaff version of what you both just said. Plenty of young women who are devoted to Christ and ready for marriage are out there but somehow the young Christian men don’t see them as “good enough.”
I disagree that the situation is symmetric. And that believed symmetry is why women don’t change.
If a Christian male announced in the foyer of the church at coffee-hour “I just don’t think my Christian sisters are good enough for me to marry.” He would be inundated with reproof. He would be piled on by everyone around and beaten down until he had been made an example of. The pastor would tell him he had to go to mandatory counseling with the pastor if this young man “still thought this was the right fit for fellowship here”. They’d ask him if he was a Trump supporter and if he thought Trumps remarks about women were appropriate.
By contrast, if a Christian woman said “I just don’t think my Christian brothers are good enough for me to marry”, at church coffee fellowship, which is what all her Christian sisters are thinking, a crowd of affirmation and support and “you go girl!” and “tell it like it is!” would surround her. She’d be made a celebrity of. She’d get her own youtube channel. She’d be on Fox News. The pastor would help her start a women’s BIble study on the topic. The pastor would preach a sermon on video-game-and-porn-watching males and have her come up to the podium and read a short poem calling for men to change.
My other point is that *I* amd *not* the problem, but get treated like it. I am *not* living in my Mom’s basement. I haven’t played a video game since I was a teen. I finished the serious undergrad and grad degrees. But the Christian females dismiss my type of guy as well.