When Sonny Mehta became head of Knopf, the first book he published was Geek Love, a novel about a woman who takes all sorts of drugs with side effects when she's pregnant, purposely, so that she can have deformed children, who she thinks are special. One has a tail, etc. Now life imitates "art." I don't know whether to cry or smash something.
This is all from distant memory. The point is, this couple knew there was a chance that their children would be deformed. I am pretty sure some were. It is a similar plight that many parents find themselves in when the give birth to a handicapped child, to find out there is a genetic problem in one or both parents - do we have more children? My wife teaches special education children and deals with this issue frequently. It is gut-wrenching for the parents, and some of them do go on to have normal, and sometimes, abnormal children. Others make the decision to not have more children.
I do not sit in judgement of any of these parents. However, when people purposely procreate a disabled child, I find that barbaric.
That's a bit different.... the woman didn't choose her disability, and nobody has the right to tell her and her husband not to reproduce (as long as it's not at taxpayer's expense.) I'm sure, however, that she'd be glad to be rid of her disability if she could, that she hoped and prayed that it would NOT be passed on... and she didn't go out looking for a sperm donor with the same defect to reinforce her "identity"!!!
Besides, if you look carefully, nearly all of us have some innate weakness or defect, somewhere. To avoid reproduction based on such factors, would wipe out our fallen race completely.
But there's something different, and profoundly sick, about deliberately creating a disability. Why make things worse than they need to be?