Why force a man to pay for his unfaithful wife's sin? Why rub salt continually in his wounds just because he's the man. Why keep reminding him of his ex-wife's treachery every single month? She is the one who sinned, she should be the one who pays.
Because he's the grownup and the child is not. He chose her, he married her and this is a result of his choice. People make mistakes, but the child should not be made to pay for his poor spouse choice.
Let's examine the FACTS, shall we?
First, Marriage is a Legal Binding Contract (hense the Royal pain in the a$$ of getting a Divorce). At the establishment of the said contract, certain assurances of fidelity are made, before witnesses, which establish the contract on very clear terms.
If the "wife"/"Partner" is running around, willfully violating that said contract, without the knowledge and consent of the "husband"/"Partner", she has violated the Contract, both verbal and written. Why should she be entitled to anything? I would propose quite the contrairy, it should be the Violator who is held responsible for costs and damages
Her actions amount to Fraud, which in ANY other Contract situation would make the violator 100% responsible for violating the contract, and any damages from that violation.
Including any Bastard children which may result from her willful violation of the marriage Contract.
Sorry M'Lady, but simply because there are children involved doesn't move me one iota. The unfaithful "wife"/Partner" needs to accept her responsibilities, which include the costs of raising her children. If those responisibilites are to much for her then she needs to address that with the said "sperm donor" and leave the real victim of her actions alone to get on with his life, without her dipping into his financial resources, thereby rewarding herself for Fraud, and flagrant violation of a written/verbal contract.
If she is unable to accurately identify the "sperm donor", to bad. Maybe she can work two jobs, since she obviously had more than just a bit too much time on her hands before.
Sorry to sound like Scrooge here, but no other area of Law can Fraud and deceit be rewarded with monthly payments from the victims of that Fraud, and the perp be the recipient of that reward.
No doubt you're hoping that only men respond to your point, but, as a woman, and a mother, I find your stance disgusting and immoral. Presumably the biological father of the child is also an adult and I see absolutely no reason whay he should not be held jointly accountable with the biological mother of the child. If he is a poor provider, then the onus is on HER and HER poor choice for the father of her child, not on her cuckolded husband.
If my marriage vows meant so little to me that I was willing to set them aside for a sexual encounter with another man, how could I possibly expect to hold my husband accountable to a higher standard regarding the 'unity' of the family than I am willing to hold myself?
You are (at least physically) a grownup. Therefore, you shall henceforth bear full responsibility for all children born out of wedlock. Fair is fair.
The child is most definitely NOT the result of his choice. If he didn't father it he didn't choose it. I feel for the child in cases such as this but why should the husband be forced to raise a bastard that his ex-wife inflicted him with? If she wants support then she needs to either give him custody of the child so he can raise it to be other than an adulterous slut (male or female) or she needs to have him adopt it.
Likewise why punish the child by forcing the husband's resentment and anger to be displayed every time he sees the child? Why not let the child forget his mother's ex husband instead?
Sometimes being a grown-up means standing up for what's right, even if it is unpleasant
GSA(P)