Not to pounce on you with an elephant gun, but your post makes me think of a little girl I know who is 8 years old and having to deal with the 'guilt' of tearing the world apart because she told what her daddy was doing to her. A confession that had to be coaxed. The really sad part is that her mother still wants to be with him... thats the part that reminds me of your post -- should the world pretend 'its all ok' when it really isnt?
In short, the girl in school can be shielded from these adult-realm condemnations, but given the realities these days (as in my example) I wonder if we are protecting or disarming the children.
Let's see you are comparing a father raping his little girl with a mom earning a living as a topless dancer?????????????????