My heart breaks for anyone who has lost a child, especially through divorce. I could not have lived through losing my son in my divorce, but I recognized that his father was just as important to him as air. It was extremely difficult, especially when his father didn't see him for months on end, failed to send child support, but I made the promise to allow him as much visitation as he wanted, any time, any where with just a heads-up phone call. It tookalmost twelve years, but his father is a part of his life every day now. Unfortunately, my ex lost the most wonderful time of all, my son's formative years. We'll see where it all ends, but fathers need to try a little harder, too. It isn't all about grasping and witchy wives. I knew the ex was hiding income, I knew he was making his next egg, but what goes around comes around. I took the responsibility for the life I helped create. I really don't want to hear too much wife bashing. There wouldn't have been a divorce, same as a marriage if there hadn't been two.
I'd venture a guess if somebody hadn't been a schmuck, there wouldn't have been a divorce -- either the wife was defective, or the husband was. It's an individual thing.