It was NOT bullying. That's a PC term. They were having a snowball fight and included her. When she whined her Father told her to fight back. It was a lesson that she needed to survive in the world. Bullying had NOTHING to do with it. She learned that she COULD do what her siblings did. Today that wouldn't happen. Her parents would be weeping about "bullying" and how cruel her brothers and sisters were. THAT was my point!
and treated like an equal.
She was and you're trying to paint it as being bullied.
In 1916 there was no PC crap. Did her siblings protect her? You bet! She died at the age of 88. Her sister was told to "take care of the baby" by their parents. Her sister died shortly after at age 103. She couldn't die until the "baby" did even though the "baby" had married, had children and taught school. The "baby" was never bullied. She was allowed to grow and flourish. She was NOT coddled. Almost 100 years later and PC stupidity flourishes and common sense has died.
My MiL saw herself as capable even though she had disabilities because her family treated her the way they did.
PC is describing an incident of bullying, and then getting upset when somebody calls it bullying. Now you say they were playing “with” her, but that’s not what you said before. I was responding to what you said, that they teased her and threw snowballs at her, even though she was not fighting back. You said that she complained to the adults.
Now I’m sorry if the picture you painted of her being bullied and turning to the adults for help was not an accurate picture. I expected better from you. That won’t happen again.
I made the mistake of suggesting you read Egon’s post, because I thought you were one of the people who could get it. I don’t know how I could have been so wrong about you, but you don’t have to worry about me making that mistake again. You’ve made yourself crystal clear. You’re perfectly willing to change your story to suit whatever opinion or mood you’re embracing at the moment.
This kid doesn’t need to be toughened up and taught that he isn’t welcome among some people because of his disability. He will learn that soon enough. For right now, his parents have chosen to shield him from this. I once knew a man who thought he could bully his child out of stuttering. That didn’t work so well. And that is not the best approach in this situation either.
It may be appropriate to have a child stick up for herself in a snowball fight with her siblings... Not may be, but is appropriate. But that is in no way the same as this situation. In some ways, it is actually the opposite. Her siblings were including her. This is a case of a child being excluded. Can you see that? Or are you blinded by some unspoken agenda? Because if you are, that would explain why you flew off the handle at me for no reason.