I know really great guys who got the shaft in court and are paying through the nose now. Completely unfair, totally outrageous. I wish they had come out swinging instead of being gentlemen.
On the flip side is my sister; talented, funny, very pretty woman who worked 3 jobs to keep the roof over her lazy-ass husband's head. While he was claiming poor, and my sis was killing herself to pay the bills, he was actually squiring his girlies around, taking them out to dinner, buying them presents, etc. He didn't have money to give her for their daughter's school clothes, but he had money to take his honies skiing! He told her she was such a fat, ugly cow, she was lucky he stayed with her!
Sis decided to change her life. Got a gastric by-pass and filed for divorce. Lost a bunch of weight, looks fabulous, and is dropping the 185 pounds of crap (soon to be ex-husband) from her life.
Sis tried to play nice for the sake of their daughter; splitting everything fairly down the middle (even though she paid most or all of the bills for their entire marriage), making concessions to end things amicably.
Just recently, she found a great guy who adores her and treats her like a queen. When POS found out, he threatened to take their daughter away from her, claiming she was an unfit mother. Isn't that a laugh? He was cheating on her for years, but he apparently didn't like the fact that he had been REPLACED.
That was it. Now it's war. She's going for the jugular, and I'm shouting encouragement all the way. She has proof of his infidelity going back years and she wants EVERYTHING.
Attorney says she has a good chance of getting it!
good for your sister!
My sister in law’s husband left her with two babies to raise. couldn’t get a dime of child support out of this looser. He went from state to state , working cash jobs and finally had a “slip and fall” and ended up on disability, which she did get a couple of 15$ checks from. whoooopeee!! (sarc)
Kids grow up(mom doing all the raising and supporting) and the dad secretly contacts the 17 year old online. She wanted to know her father and in her naive stupidity she kept up a contact. The father invited her six states away to live with him for her senior year in high school. My sister in law of course didn’t want her daughter to go but finally conceded.
The a-hole has the kid for a few months then decides that HE WANTS CHILD SUPPORT!! LIKE 300 $ A MONTH!!! I told sister in law that I’d go to jail first! stupid ass friend of the court thought that the fact that he owed over 40K back child support didn’t matter and she should pay. She didn’t have the money so her greedy ex proposed that she didn’t have to pay him child support if she would waive the 40K back support he owed her. She didn’t have any choice and did it....BUT MY GOD!!!! This a-hole will only have the kid for one measly year and walked away scott free!!
The system doesn’t look as though it is biased towards women to me.
men are usually the ones with the high paying careers. The women have given birth to the children, ruining their bodies and making them less appealing on the open market:) They usually have the responsibility of finishing raising the children which does put a crimp in any sort of dating.
the man can walk away and get along with a one bedroom apartment, the women usually don’t have that luxery.
men usually just keep working the job they have.
women have to go out and start a whole new career all the while trying to raise children all on their own. Most divorced men don’t seem to be all that jacked up about being there for their kids once they divorce.
at least this is what i’v seen personally.
So hubby was right; she was a fat ugly cow.
GOOD! Me too! Infidelity should be a felony.