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My mom’s dementia was emotionally, financially, physically bigger than me, for all my good wishes and desire to help

This was one where I had to let go and let God. I prayed a lot to get her to a place where she is happy and safe, she is now in a nursing home in her community with friends and family nearby and professional dedicated staff she knows helping her - my husband and I work from 6 am to 7 pm , and she needed 24/7 round the clock care- my thoughts and prayers with everyone going through this.

Dementia is devastating. Mom was a fashion model, worked in the fashion industry all her life, she retains the footprints of her best self, always flawlessly groomed and beautiful which helped mask the dementia for years but pieces are missing and she was on autopilot, able to wake up, accessorize, make up and present a beautiful picture, but her ability to judge was long gone. There are no harder words when one learns a parent “lacks capacity”., But we take joy in her company- she is carefree, and everyone in the family enjoys her and we love every minute spent with her.

A good geriatric professional is very helpful understanding this condition.