Lost a baby at 16 weeks. I finally pushed the baby out (yes, it was like real labor, although obviously not as big-but contractions) and the nurse swept it away and kept calling it “tissue.”
Until the baby is 20 weeks, that’s exactly how miscarried fetuses are treated, as if they were skin or a blood clot. Just “human tissue.”
I’m so, so sorry for your loss.
And yes, that 20 week mark makes all the difference to some in the medical community. The “care” is missing from healthcare.