Be cool man. Your original post seemed to be somewhat callous and uncaring. And then you disappeared. You have explained yourself. So please try not to turn this into a more ugly fight.
Thanks. Sometimes I need to be reminded to breathe. I goofed up with my untamable fingers and they way they type sometimes. I officially do a mea culpa for all those who misunderstood my original post. I really am not that callous or cruel.