Posted on 03/13/2012 7:26:14 AM PDT by MNDude
I still see that as an outgrowth of people who have no empathy for or socialization with others.
It’s even obvious in dogs. If a dog is raised apart from other dogs, it will still want to mate, but it will see other dogs as its enemies.
The difference is that dogs are pack animals, so are oriented to supporting its pack and seeing outsiders as enemies. Humans are more individualistic, so we usually don’t see outsiders as the enemy, but we are indifferent to them and their feelings. Unless of course we are trained to think of them as our enemies.
If a girl or boy is raised alone, she will likely be utterly mercenary and ruthless around the opposite sex. They will never form a deep bond of trust and love, even if they get married half a dozen times. This doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy sex, just that they are, and will remain, loners.
A child who has a parent like that is in trouble.
It would take the full month of my experience or more to even scratch the surface ;) OK, short version.
Imagine someone with an incredible IQ, parents teaching (tenured) at a well known Calif university, respectably good looks, charming personality...and a vocabulary that consisted solely of the word “Me”.
Imagine a worldview that began and ended with the politics of “ME” and how literal events in China would alter the life of “ME”.
Imagine all social events from dinner with friends/acquaintances/casual business interests et all, being diverted to “ME”. What were these events for if not “ME”? And it didn’t matter if it was McDonalds or the Kodiak Steakhouse. If it was an event with 5 or literally 500 people. If “ME” wasn’t the center of her world to the literal exclusion of all else, “ME” could win the Oscar for “Best in the role of an adult depicting a tantruming child”.
Now I’ll expose the secret to dealing with such people and coming out smelling like a rose. You treat them like a tantruming child. The people you are with then see her for what she is and gain respect for you in showing your will to not take her s@!t.
That said, these events/people were all at places and with others who she knew and would have been at anyway so no damage to me regardless one way or the other. and when I needed to be somewhere or with people that my little experiment could have messed up, I just told her no, let her spaz and ignored her for a day.
And like all tantruming children, sticking to that usually ends in them pouting and soon wanting more attention.
Once I’d had about all I could deal with and was satisfied my learning process was at an end, I waited until she went all “ME” in public one night, said “Know what? It’s all about you. So have a nice life together,” left her there, got actual applause from a small group of people and never saw her again ;)
And this girl is a 100-car train wreck. About ten minutes of scanning her angsty-stuff confirmed that she is the archetype leftist female: admittedly angry and snarky; hyper-critical and judgmental; and over compensating for her fear of rejection by presenting a persona that is so unattractive that it becomes a self-perpetuating cycle.
The easiest way for her to get the things she envies in others would be so simple - she just has to stop being her!
We have 2 Chinese children through the blessing of adoption. Our travel mates were 2 couples that married in their mid-40’s.
They made wonderful parents. If it’s meant to be, it will happen.
Well said.
She is admitting how much she hates her life, and maybe some feminists will learn from her story and stop being bamboozled by leftist mythology that says women don’t need children.
You nailed it
To all men:
Run! Run far away!
In just a cursory pass on Google, identifying who this woman is took 10 min.
She is a textbook caricature of the crusading feminist writer. Look at her ‘biography’, her motivations influences et all. She feigns culture with her ‘wine and stinky cheese comment, travels to Paris, Lives in failed writer Mecca, espouses EVERY SINGLE cliche of a city feminist ‘babe’ (sarcasm intended), wears the currently trendy hipster glasses, touts her anti religion stance as virtue, touts her media appearances as if she is an authority when in the NY Post article she self-references she is the comic relief in an otherwise ‘serious’ set of examples...
This woman is the Webster’s definition of ‘wannabee’. And I’m actually glad she exists. She is exactly the poster child the world needs to tout as what not to be when you grow up.
Don’t confuse distant communication with socialization. It is well established that electronic communication involves minimal information and considerable masking. It is as different from socialization as video game golf is from actually playing golf.
Children need a chaperoned situation in which they can work together, play together, eat together, etc., in a small, family type, but unrelated group. It’s long been known that girls and boys with opposite gender siblings of about their age understand the opposite gender much better than children raised by themselves, or with same sex siblings.
A very successful experiment ended about 20 years ago, in which eight suburban homes in a development were arranged in an octagon pattern, with the backs of the homes each having a small private fenced backyard, and a much larger “commons” between them. Tenets for that particular arrangement were chosen for being young, prospective parents.
The rest of the development had an ordinary arrangement, to act as a control for the experiment.
The level of socialization among children in the octagon was much greater, and the families living there were averaging over 3 children per family. Though not statistically significant, it was noted that one couple was infertile and reported considerable stress about it, eventually moving out.
In that the experiment ended as such, it’s unfortunate that there has been no follow up about the children who grew up there. Though I would hazard to guess they would be much more likely to have happy marriages.
I agree. Many have at this point in the thread posted a lot of her quotes and junk she has written to other women, as it relates to her own loss of mommyhood. Many say she deserves what she gets.
I actually agree, that we reap what we sow, however, it is never too late to stop sowing hate, and start sowing love. She could have a child if she wants, either the old fashion way, or she can adopt. Either way, she needs to join forces with a potential Daddy first. Going the mommy route alone is a tough row to weed.
It seems like what is blocking her, is her resistance to the very lifestyle she wants, which is really sad. I think if she can overcome that hump, she can rise to the occasion.
It takes a serious mental problem to keep a person from overcoming such feelings, when those feelings are the only ones standing in one’s way to happiness.
I pray for people like this. Sometimes I have such speed bumps in my own life -— they are tough to scale, but usually well worth it!
No wonder she cannot find a man.
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