I think there is a different problem underlying all of this.
That is, that not every person is supposed to get a mate and have children. Society demands it, even insists on it, but there are many reasons for many people to not marry or have children.
And the important part is that society punishes them for their failure to conform.
In old China, it was recognized that people who remained unmarried had two options. Men could join the military, and women could become what were called “Amah”. Often they were such because their parents could not afford a dowry.
Amah were not servants, but respectable single women who lived with another family. They would perform some chores, such as watching after children, cooking and a little light cleaning, in exchange for room and board and a small stipend, and that they remain single. They were treated as if they were a beloved Aunt.
This is because Chinese polite society recognized that unless they were married, women faced poverty and starvation, with little other alternative than to become prostitutes, which was far below the station of a polite woman. Real servants were lower class only.
But there are no real equivalent places for unmarried men and women in polite society in modern America. They have no cultural support mechanism. Often others assume incorrectly that they are either homosexuals, ugly, or mentally ill, which is not true in most cases.
And the real zinger is that there are almost certainly going to be a lot more of them in the future.
Why? Because the number one cause of lifetime bachelorhood among Americans is because they were not raised in social situations with peers of the opposite gender. There are no such social mechanisms in America: certainly not school or church, where children are directed to do other things by adults.
This also causes many relationship problems among those that do have relationships, and contributes much to a high divorce rate.
Another major reason for lifetime bachelorhood is exhaustion. Many people just do not have the energy to find a mate and have children. They are inherently just too weak. And while they may not even realize this, they just cannot bring themselves to do what has to be done to find a mate and have children.