Reading various stories about this, the waitress didn’t know her posting would ID the patron. She did intend to put the comment itself up for ridicule (as IMO it should be ridiculed). And there she thought it would end, but for internet sleuths who decided to track down the note’s author.
I’m not sure the waitress had any more ‘right’ to post than the “Pastor” had to privacy.
I'd say that the customer could have been seated in anyone's section, and that her written comment wasn't directed to her specific server, but to the general attitude of paying a tip to any server. It's not unreasonable for other servers at that restaurant to take offense at the general attitude towards servers depicted by this customer, especially since the servers often help each other out of sight in the kitchen.
And where does she get the right to take another waitresses' check and put it on the Internet?
That's a different question. I'd agree with you on this. Kids don't understand the longevity of what they post on the internet. She should be lucky that it wasn't naked pictures of herself.
While I said that the customer should not consider any of this to be private, the server should realize that a business transaction document is company confidential, meaning that it should only be shared internally for company-approved purposes only, and not externally without prior approval.
-PJ