I feel the same way as you. I have eyes, and when I either see or meet a person, I can see if they are black, white, brown, or yellow. I also can see their physical appearance, which also makes a mark. But after just a short time talking with that person, all color or whatever you see is gone and the person comes out. And it it’s the person who matters.
Years ago,, I was taking a class, and one young teen male student from Europe came in dressed all in black, pierced ears, and his hair was combed in an unusual way. ( aamof, his hair style changed every day.) So what kind of kid was this? Way out Goth? After just a few minutes of listening to him, he was an intelligent, well-spoken, engaging kid. We became friends and as I got to know him I realized he was also a staunch conservative.
That kid happened to be white, but the same sort of thing has happened with black people.
Why does the word “racism” have to enter into it,-——— except to make trouble.