I never used the word selfishness nor have I insinuated it. My position is simple and clear. Man is meant for woman and woman for man. They are inextricably linked. The nature of relationships is virtually infinite but the foundation for relationships is born in the nature of humanity. There is no natural state of permanent onogamy. There is not even an adequate word for such a condition.
By what authority are you impugning those who won’t commit to family as failing to accept responsibility for oneself and one’s community? I find it rather high-handed you imply that a single person is somehow not a full member of a functioning society.