Found out I was getting divorced at 26 and 1/2 years. About killed me. Two kids in later teens.
Got a good attorney. Never did anything in the process that was unkind or that I would regret. Oldest kid decided to stay with me and his brother wanted joint but if my wife had fought it he would have stayed with me as well. Gave the spouse all the liquid assets and paid off her car which allowed me to keep my house.
The month my divorce was final I went out with a wonderfull woman who I married the following year. Started out dead broke, been remarried for 19 years and are still like happy newly weds. Financially ten times better off and blissfully retired last year. My bride is a rabid Trump supporter and is always asking if we have enough ammo.
Until you came along, this thread was getting pretty depressing ;-)