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Far too often very little of the support money is seen by the children, but is at least only wasted by the custodial parent whose irremediable spending habits are the reason a divorce took place to begin with,; and not rarely enough that it used to enable and support a substance habit that simply demands more and more by virtue of court-reallocated earnings of the husband.

Usually it is now reaped from his paycheck before he ever sees it. To lose your job can mean that you wind up incarcerated for nonpayment.

Been there, seen it, suffered from it, supported and counseled other men who weep because their children are only the open door into his employer's treasury, and he sees the children go without heat, food, clothes, or love.

In my case, I was finally able to gain my children's custody, and raise them properly, lovingly, and successfully, by myself alone.

Though there are a few "fathers" whose ambitions never get beyond the gratification of their gender identifier, the wife-badgered courts seem to treat men as if they were all of that ilk.

Far too often very little of the support money is seen by the children, but is at least only wasted by the custodial parent whose irremediable spending habits are the reason a divorce took place to begin with ...

I feel a song coming on.

Child Support is a scam, I send the ex an ungodly amount of money and the child is in my care half of the time... And what do I see for it? My daughter literally slept on a boxspring and mattress on the floor for years before she finally went out and spent $50 for a cheap metal frame...

What is my recourse for her taking the money but not spending it on my child???? Legally? Not really a damned thing I can do about it.. Unless I want to spend gobs more of it on lawyers only to lose my argument in the courts because lack of spending the funds directly on the child is not neglect or abuse.

I subsidize the ex and her lazy new husband with my support payments, nothing else.