Posted on 12/20/2004 6:41:03 AM PST by kerouacbal
I am 26 years old and have been married for 2 years. I am having trouble growing up and I am driving my wife nuts. It has gotten to the point that my wife talks about divorce almost every day. I want to work this out more then I every wanted anything but I can't seem to do it or do it quick enough. I can't seem to remember consistently to do every day things like take out the garbage make sure all the doors are locked and the heat is off at night (there is a lot more but won't get into it all). I am posting this here to try to get some advise on how to help my self grow up and start to take care of my wife and son better like a husband should. My parents are dead and I don't have a close family member or friend to get advise from. Could someone please help me.
for starters how about not asking strangers for what should be within you. if you have to prove anything, you ain't growedup.
Quit surfing and posting vanities. That's a good start.
I think we need more info than that. If this is only about taking out the garbage or turning off the lights then maybe your wife is too quick to give up on you.
Marriage counseling. Sounds like that's your best bet.
Do you go to a church? Do have someone to talk with?
I was a lot like you. A stint in the army helped me see the important things in life. Not saying that is the answer for you...
Divorce, you will be happier than you could ever imagine.
Oh dear...
I am having trouble growing up
Put lifts in your shoes and wear a fake mustache.
If that fails, buy an extra long overcoat and ask your friend if you can ride on his shoulders.
Don't you have close friends, or clergy, or other families where you can talk with in person? They know you better than us, strangers living--perhaps--thousand miles away.
And perhaps you should ask people to send you a private reply instead of public postings.
Think of others first, before yourself. Put your wife and child's best interests at the forefront of your activities before you look after yourself.
A pathetic 10.
Husband, love your wife (unconditionally).
Wife, obey your husband in the Lord.
That's all you need to know.
ps. I'm divorced.
Get sceened by a psychiatrist who specializes in adults with ADD. You mgiht have a bit of ADD, or you simply might just be lazy.
You may have attention deficit disorder. I struggle with remembering simple daily tasks as well. However, this shouldn't be a cause for divorce, so I suggest your problem is two-fold -- you and the wife -- and that you and your wife might benefit from marriage counselling.
The situation you describe is too vague for anyone to give you advice.
Not so for his son...
I think a good start would be going to a marriage counselor, or clergy if you are a church goer, rather than posting a vanity on FreeRepublic. Good luck to you.
Trust me I in the wrong and my wife it not given up to quickly. I screw up almost every day with just about anything you can think about. My wife says I am like living with a 12 year old. I afraid she's almost right on. I lost my father at 13 and my mother was never the same. I was left to grow up by my self and I not doing a good job of it.
You don't need the help you Wife and son need all the help they can get putting up with you! Joint the Army and do a tour in Iraq. That will be a start to your recovery and will give your family some deserved rest.
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