[kerouacbal]

We were together for 3 years before we got married and married for 1 year before my son was born. To give you an example of who much of an ass I am, today my wife and son are sick I forgot to bring out the garbage last night now my sick wife has to go outside in 20 degree weather to put the garbage out so the garage doesn't smell of my son's diapers all week.

[frog_jerk_2004]

Do you just don't care? Is that what your problem is? Do you love your family?

[lindor]

now my sick wife has to go outside in 20 degree weather to put the garbage out so the garage doesn't smell of my son's diapers all week.

Now it sounds as if you're putting us on. If so, your wife should take you out with the dirty diapers.

[processing please hold]

Geez, you sound very self centered. Your last post says a lot about you.

Are you setting yourself up for a divorce subconsciously, and then rationalize in you head that it is she who wants the divorce? Making you the injured party.

[concretebob]

Does your work require you to travel? Can you can home during the day?

Here's the thing: It took me a long time to realize that my home is where I WANTED to be.

For a long time, I preferred the company of my male friends, the comradery, the bonding, all that BS.

Now, you couldn't drag me outta here with a double-team of Kliesdales(sic).

You have a high-pressure job?

Always in a hurry?

Slow down, set a pace, set a pattern.

Wake up 1/2 hour earlier.

Use Post-It notes to remind yourself. Use Post-It notes to remind yourself to use Post-It notes.

[antivenom]

LOL...does she expect you to read minds? Did she ASK you to do this? What is the ROOT CAUSE? You do know how to do a ROOT CAUSE ANALYSIS?

[Rebelbase]

Oh yeah, one more thing (again). You don't suspect your wife of having a drinking problem, do you?

Incessant bitching, belittling, and demands are control freak tendancies that can originate from alcoholism.

If that is a possibility, FReepmail me.

[concretebob]

In line with others who are suggesting a little Devine Intervention:

You can find God on your own. Believe me, I know.

It's not religion, it's spirtuality.

It's recognizing that we are not in total control, but only have free will.

My wife is truly an Angel.

She firmly believes in self-help.

She's the reason I can say 14 years, 11 months, 20 days and counting. One day at a time.

Your wife either wants to be married, or she doesn't.

Was the baby planned? or did someone forget to take precautions?

[Max Combined]

"I forgot to bring out the garbage last night now"

It is your wife's job to remind you to take the garbage out.

[Max Combined]

"so the garage doesn't smell of my son's diapers all week."

A stinky garage is not the end of the world.

[HairOfTheDog]

Just go do the best you can. Maybe you already are, or maybe you forget things you don't like to do, and never the things you want to do.