[neb52]

"though it may now be slowly starting to swing back that way for younger people today."

Actually like me and most 20 something men we want to be successful before marraige, just to ensure that we can at least wear one leg of the preverbal "pants in this family". Finding an American women today that wants to share or be a parnter in a relationship is really tough.

[summer]

Finding an American women today that wants to share or be a parnter in a relationship is really tough.

That's interesting, because I read a recent NYT article that claimed many young women today are NOT willing to delay childbearing for decades, until they're in their late 30's and 40's, as women of the recent past were willing to do,. These young women today want to get married first, either before college or right away, and have kids right away.

I think if some women today had to do it all over again, they would have had their kids in their 20's instead of later -- in part because waiting for that financial independence promised by Gloria Steinem back then actually never materialized, no matter how hard some women worked.

BTW, good luck to you! :)