i imagine it is very devastating. i am sad for you that it happened. i am very lucky in that i have not really been exposed to those sorts of men. my parents were happily married til they died and my dad lived on another 10 years after my mom died. i distinctly recall him joking [at age 72] about finding a new woman, and then he said, but no, i could never do that, what would my grandchildren think if i replaced their grandma? i loved him so much for thinking that way, even though he was probably lonely. my brother has been happily married for almost 25 years. the men in my family and my husband's family are all very honorable men. i am very lucky.
The best thing is that you know you're blessed!
I'm happy that folks like you exist (makes me believe in good stuff).