“””I almost wonder if it’s a sign of society..”””
Stop wondering Blue
Virgie was married 4 times. Her ex-spouses remarried and had kids. As a result, her own children had half-siblings and step-siblings. The number of grandparents increases exponentially - so someone has to be abandoned at Easter and Christmas. It does get complicated.
With our divorce rate at 50%+ you just get more grandparents and less bonding.
I’m done!
G’nite
ya know, a divorced youngmother friend of mine (wink wink), voluntarily made her child go to her paternal grandparents one weekend a month, every month, until the child was 14, at which time the child ws given the right to make her own schedule. The child may not have been there for all the holidays, but she was given plenty of time to get to know her fathers' kin. Those relationships have grown into strong bonds, and she appreciates the very strong support system in place, all stemming from those visits. Not to mention, the paternal grandparents think the mother is the cats-meow for sharing her child when she didnt' have to. The 'friend' feels good about it to this day :-)