Full Disclosure: For humorous or satirical purposes ONLY. No actual violence is suggested, condoned, approved, or engaged in.
Cheers!
Hey, I want to tell you something, OK?
And I want to leave a message for you right now. Because, again, it’s 10:30, you’re in New York again on a Wednesday, and once again, I have made an ASS of myself trying to get to a phone to call you at a specific time.
When the time comes for me to make the phone call, I stop whatever I’m doing and make that phone call. At 11:00 in the Morning in New York, and if you don’t pick up, at 10:00 at night. And you don’t even have the God damned phone turned on.
I want you to know something... I’m tired of playing this game with you. I’m leaving this message with you to tell you that you have insulted me for the last time.
You have insulted me. You don’t have the brains or the decency as a human being... I don’t give a damn that you’re 12 years old or 11 years old... or that you’re a child... or that your Mother is a thoughtless pain in the ass, who doesn’t care what you do as far as I’m concerned... You have humiliated me for the last time with this phone. And when I come out there next week ...I’m going to fly out there for the day, just to straighten you out on this issue... I’m going to let you know just how disappointed in you I am, and how angry I am with you that you have done this to me again.
You have made me feel like shit, and you have made me feel like a fool, over and over and over again. And this crap you pull on me, with this God damn phone situation, that you would never dream of doing to your Mother, and you do it to me constantly, and over and over again. And I’m on a plane, and I’m going to come out there for the day, and I’m going to straighten your ass out when I see you.
You understand me? I’m going to really make sure you get it. Then I am going to get on a plane, I’m going to turn around and come home. You better be ready on Friday, the 20th, to meet with me so I can let you know just how I feel about what a rude little pig you really are.
You are a rude, thoughtless little pig, OK?
(To replay this mess...)
Now I realize that the reason that Alec was so good in Glengarry Glen Ross, was that he wasn’t acting.
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The Presumption Against Marriage by Bernard Chapin No writer that I know, and I am absolutely no exception, has the right to speak as an authority for all men. No matter what I say about honor and pride, some guy somewhere is going to spend his last dime on a dominatrix or propose to a coke whore. There’s no getting around it. It’s a fact. We can quibble and pretend dominated males are exceptions, but there are legions of guys out there who will put up with any abuse that a woman sends their way. That being said, I would like to address this column to those not pining for the submissive’s chair or anxiously awaiting a girl on a white horse who’ll allow them to pay off her car note and college loan without saying thank you. The fundamental question is, “Should a man nowadays get married at all?” My take on the issue is that the appropriateness of marriage has to be determined on a case by case basis but that presumption, in this day and age, should always be against marriage. To put it more simply, the tie cannot go to the runner. Men, when in doubt, walk away. If you have serious reservations about a woman and you marry her, a number of things may happen. One of them is good. Your negative intuition could turn out to be wrong and you’ll end up having a wonderful, blissful life with your bride. Unfortunately, lots of bad things could happen as well: 1. Your intuition was right and she divorces you. She thereby acquires half, if not all, of your assets and possessions. The state is thoroughly biased against men and seems to have no threshold for its love of male suffering. This is a very real and tragic possibility. 2. Your intuition is right and she’s unreliable. You experience strange men calling the house and hanging up should you be the one to reach the phone first. 3. Your intuition is right as your experiment with paying for her college education ends in her befriending evil radical feminists who call the house and scream “rapist” at you as a greeting. They then follow up this pleasantry with asking if their “play kitty” is home. 4. Your intuition is right and she spends money like a gay party boy on Fire Island leading you slowly but gaily into Chapter 7. 5. Your wonderful children get aborted as she decides they’d take up too much time during the day. 6. You spend all your free time with her at the mall or, far worse, with her family and friends. Well, you see my point. It’s bad scenario a-go-go. So, in the spirit of the boss from the film “Casino”: “Why take a chance?” That’s easy for me to dismissively say, but then there’s tons of dopes like this writer who are smart enough to know better but then get married anyway. When I got engaged at Christmas time, Eric Ericson emailed me and said something to the effect of, “Have you lost your mind?” As it turned out, I had not. I sanely and soberly weighed the pros versus the cons and determined that this particular woman was unlike all the others I had met and that she gave me the best chance of fulfilling my dream of fathering a couple of little critters and having a faithful, intelligent person as a partner. Yet, even with such a rational determinations made in advance, the situation changed and in April I found myself in the midst of an ugly soap opera on which I turned out to be only a temporary, non-recurring character. I was written out of the series before summer hit. For the future, I’ve decided, that unless its near-perfect, there is no way I’ll get engaged again. My decision is not respected by many of the women I know who attempt to use what I call “shame-based” therapy as a means of coercing guys like me into finding a wife. I am at the point where I can vigorously beat back their attempts to manipulate me, but I thought I’d share my responses with the reader in the hopes that my words can be of benefit in case they encounter similar harassment. First, I say that the situation had changed with men and women. It used to be that when a man got married, he got a deal. A woman would remain faithful to him or, at the very least, cook and clean for him. You’d get something in exchange for what you brought to the table. Today, men get very little in comparison with the past. I have met no end of women who ask in advance if I cook because they themselves do not. When I tell them that I cook every day, they are quite impressed (although I leave out my belief that pre-made salads, brats, and pizza are the height of fine dining). Promiscuity is another issue. The promiscuity of the modern female makes marriage a very dubious proposition indeed. Who the heck wants to marry a girl that’s had more sleeping partners than a bed at the Motel 6? Not me, that’s for sure. I’d rather die a cold and lonely death than marry a skank; Paul Craig Roberts produced a magnificent column on this phenomenon a few years ago. I’ve never understood the argument that “all their experiences make them good in bed,” either. If they’re attractive, how good do they have to be? If you ask me, no amount of tricks she’s learned can make up for huge “Tyrone” that her ex-boyfriend had tattooed upon her back (and he was smart enough not to marry her). Another huge factor to me is the obesity epidemic. While I acknowledge that it’s not really an epidemic by most definitions, weight increases seem to heavily affect married women. I’m 34 years old now, and I’ve met countless females who ballooned to MGM proportions after getting hitched. To me, this is deplorable. I knew one who showed me a picture of her when she was 22. She was better looking than most movie stars. Her body was hard and trim and her face was pure allure, but by age 28 she had gained 65 pounds and wore pants that William Perry could have fit into. I’d look at her husband sorrowfully when she talked of having children. The act of conception with her would have required the courage of St. George. No mere oral dose of Viagra would do. It would require hypodermic injections to get old Bumpty into Humpity form. My last argument is also my most recently derived one. If it’s at work where I’m getting harassed about my lack of romance (read: susceptibility), and it usually is, I tell them: “I have plenty of masters here. Why do I need one at home?” No more accurate words could be spoken. I’m ordered to do things all day long at work. When I get home, I want to relax. I’m not going to waste time doing unnecessary chores or shopping for things I do not need. The homage we domestically have to pay to our wives is outrageous. Why are they my boss? Here’s what I say now, “Let’s take an IQ test and if you win, then you can tell me what to do.” I’ve had no takers yet, as I’m not giving out a big enough point spread. In summation, with women, unless they’re without flaw, my advice is to ride the train for as long as you can, but let some other sucker pay for its maintenance and servicing, and always make sure you get off of the route before it reaches matrimonial terminal. |
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The Presumption Against Marriage, Part II by Bernard Chapin “Bachelors know more about women than married men. If they didn’t they’d be married, too.” – H.L. Mencken. A great sage predicted I’d take some serious abuse for what I wrote about marriage the other day. He was right, but for the benefit of our readers, I’m going to provide public refutation to some of the arguments and whines that were thrown my way en masse–if nothing else, their vaginations actually strengthened my overall position. Burn the Heretic! As I have noted in a previous article, Supine or Fall, whenever a man stands up for himself on gender issues, he is immediately accused by women of being unmanly. Why? It’s because we stood up to them, and that’s not right. That’s not manly. We’re supposed to let them walk on us. These women, and those lickspittle male orcs who hobble in their wake, would be wise to remember that the western world now embraces equality between the sexes (at least officially), and that no one should be de facto superior to anyone else. Walking on men, in theory, is not allowed. Furthermore, it’s a man’s duty to define and defend himself, and I can think of no occasion when this is more true than in making personal life choices. Marriage can be life joy or it can be life sentence, but there’s no room to make allowances for political correctness when thinking deeply about such eventualities. Why would any women be aghast at our pontificating over it? Should we not stop to smell a flower before picking it? I say stop and smell, inspect its structural base, and chemically analyze the ground around it before making a purchase. Perhaps some women became irate at me because they secretly realize that marriage does not offer men the advantages it once did, so their awareness causes them to go after heretics like myself who threaten to make this knowledge public. I’ll recall the case of Darren Blacksmith here. Darren wrote a “just say no to marriage” piece and got kerosene poured all over him. His offense was such that he quit the business. Luckily, this would never be my response. I’m incorrigible. Harassing me only produces more words. It’ll take more than a few china dolls to deter me from tackling this subject, and if I keep hearing from them, Part III will be even better than Part II! Nuance Lost: As much as I hate the word “nuance,” with its outraged tobacco-addicted, post-modernist French professor connotations, I think that the nuance of my argument was lost on some of my critics. Emotions run so scarlet on marriage that many a female reader did not understand the point that I was trying to make. Marriage certainly can be a very good thing and it is, on the aggregate, beneficial for society, but in this day and age, PRESUMPTION must be against it. Our default position should be–“it’s not a good move.” That does not mean it isn’t a good move for everybody in every situation. There are over three billion women on this planet, and many of them could make excellent wives, but you should be vigilant, and nowhere is this more true than in the über-spoiled United States . Men have too much to lose if things don’t work out. Think of my friend Robert and the trauma that he went through. Western independent females, as a rule, do not make the best wives. They’re too “me” oriented for that line of work. One must be very careful indeed. Sit and observe closely before making any decisions. Who’s Fault Is This Predicament? Is it the fault of free marketeers like myself clamoring for government to get more of its vile fingers into our private lives? Hell no! Ask the individuals who keep voting for political figures who brag about increasing taxes and adding to the burden with which government sabotages our lives. Many of those who automatically look to the state to provide solutions are the same ones who complain about the decline of marriage today. If they didn’t elect redistributionist judges and politicians, men would not fear marriage the way we do. It shouldn’t be, “if you can’t marry a man, marry the government.” Let’s change it to “solve problems amongst yourselves.” I think that’s an ideal solution. If the divorce courts end their war on men, then we will once again become more friendly regarding matrimonial vows. Until then, it’s best to harken back to the wisdom of Benjamin Disraeli: “Every woman should marry–and no man.” An Elite Club: Women of the sistahood view marriage as being an elite club and want nothing more than full-time membership. They, whether they deny it or not, admire their friends who are married, and this admiration can sometimes even be transferred onto their friend’s husbands. Women who are married, even if it’s to users who care nothing about them, are higher on the social plane than women who are single. This is implicit acknowledgment of the sweet deal many women receive through marriage. Personally, I do not begrudge them their social hierarchies and care little about affairs apart from my own, but these same women then try to fit guys like me into their social parameters, which is absurd. Male Diversity Verboten: This attempt to coerce men into accepting their worldview is quite disturbing but also rather comical. Ironically, it indirectly benefits fellows like me as the fact that I’ve been married before makes me seem far more legitimate than most of my friends. I am a man who could be amenable to their terms and line of reasoning, or non-reasoning as the case may be. After all, I made the vow once and bought rings twice, so I must be on their wavelength. Am I not? Not.[i] Yet, my friends, like the infamous Dianabol, are knocked out of the box repeatedly because they’ve never been married before. Why should he be part of the caste of untouchables? They’d say because he’s a 40 year old perpetual bachelor. Therefore, he must be a loser. I even heard a girl say this very thing about him the other day. She assumed that since he was never married before that there must be something wrong with him. Why did she not assume that there may be something very right about him? Dianabol is a prince of man. He exercises five days a week and drinks for four on the weekends. He works constantly, makes serious coin, and has an apartment that looks like it came out of “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.”[ii] Dianabol’s a profoundly educated man with a high thrill-seeking personality who strikes the great majority of girls as being the epitome of fun, but his uncomplicated (legally speaking only) past precludes him from some of their considerations. Guess what? It’s their loss. What’s In It For Me? I found out yesterday that I’m not supposed to be asking this question about marriage. It appears that many women believe our default position should be “why ask why” on the topic (rather than “why me”). One girl even called me selfish for putting forth the proposition! Shouldn’t I be selfish about my own interests? Maybe I’m not supposed to have any interests. Perhaps my having interests is really a plot to dehumanize women. It seems that the message sent is, “you will marry a chick the size of Toronto and you’ll like it!” Ah, no. I think I’ll pass. I don’t want her, you can have her, Toronto ’s too big, and socialistic, for me. Contrary to what many a woman may say, I believe that “What’s in it for me?” is the central question one should ask before signing one’s life away. If you derive no benefit, then run, don’t walk. Again, of course, there’s the nuance thing, as it’s situational. My life certainly is worth signing away in a fight against Hitler or Pol Pot, but I refuse to fall down upon my sword in a scrape for Calphalon pots or Lancome makeup. Well, you’ve heard what I have to say about the matter, but never forget the triumphant words of Zsa Zsa Gabor before making your own decision, “A man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.” [i] Of course, I say that now but got engaged a second time at Christmas. I suppose if the right youthful Laotian national comes along next year, I may have to eat my above words. I’m just letting you know in advance due to a history of snap decisions on my part. [ii] His ex-girlfriend decorated it! |
Wow. Alec needs some serious anger management and some intense counseling. How he could call his daughter a pig?
Poor Ireland. You are welcome to visit my home and hang out with my daughters anytime you would rather “go missing” for your daddy visits. No one in my home would ever, ever call you that.
Hang in there girlie. These are your daddy’s issues and not yours at all.
The judge at the custody hearing won’t like the sound of this little tete a tete one bit. Leaving such a diatribe on an answering machine tells you how smart that liberal is.
Hollywood Daddy ping. Disgusting! see post #8
I remember hearing about public tirades of his against his former wife......similar rantings on a public street. BUT this is towards a defenseless child. Cut the dang visitation from the dad and give the poor kid a break.
Full Disclosure: For humorous or satirical purposes ONLY. No actual violence is suggested, condoned, approved, or engaged in.
Cheers!
Wow.
The message started out sort of reasonable. But by the time it was over, I just couldn’t believe a father would leave such a message on his daughter’s voicemail.
Unbelievable.
Let’s see how the liberals help Baldwin climb out of this hole.
Did anyone else notice: He didn’t seem to know whether his daughter was 11 or 12 years old...
And it was all about HIM. HIS humiliation. Give me a break.
I grew up with parents who were mean. Really mean. And I tell you, there is a price to pay for being mean to your kids. They avoid you. IT’S HEALTHY TO AVOID A MEAN PERSON. That child will likely suffer from PTSD for many years, far into her adulthood.
Oh, and he has to insult the girl’s mother, too. That’s really classy.
The judge had better quickly cut off his visitation rights. Like today. No child should have to put up with that.
Alec, keep sending the checks to your beautiful child’s mother. But don’t bother flying out on the 20th. I have a feeling some real men may be waiting at the airport to show you how a father should treat his daughter.
What a spoiled baby.
On the page below is an email link to Basinger’s law firm. I sent her a note of support and suggest everyone here does the same. There is no excuse for this man’s behavior.
http://www.lawyers.com/California/Beverly-Hills/Hersh,-Mannis-and-Bogen,-LLP-77097-f.html
And AB wonders why she doesn’t answer the phone? Holy cow! I sure wouldn’t want to talk to a crazy-@ss dad like him.
That is the voice of a little man who is not used to taking orders. I think he wrote the book on “Do you know who I am?”
He probably treats his dog better.
What happened to the cell phone?
This is the type of behavior Hollywhacked wants for the rest of America.
Pray for W and Our Troops
Alec Baldwin is the spoiled little pig. He is so self-focused and it is all about him - it is in his own words.
If I were the kid, I wouldn’t be looking forward to his visit or his tirades - he’s promised as much. Save it, Dad.
What a jerk.
Daddy dearest.
Sounds like the type of abuse individuals with (NPD) Narcissistic Personality Disorder dish out.
Links to audio in #8 and/or #16
...can’t WAIT until Hannity gets a hold of this....:)
Sounds like justifiable Momicide on Kim’s part.
Smart Alec should be dropped off in Alaskan grizzly country
so he can pick on somebody his own size.
Sounds like he’s gone over the Edge.