They were also allowed 1 character witness each, the ex-husband had a man who had known him for years, the wife used someone who was 19 yrs old and who had only known her for 4 months, but that didn't matter to the court, the girl gave a glowing testimony of a saint. Honest to God, the woman couldn't use anyone who really knew her because they'd have had to lie in court and they all knew it.
She has won because she was led by a psychologist aunt telling her every move to make. My acquaintance's in-laws thought he was the better parent until the ex convinced them that he was abusing the kids and implied sexual abuse.
Like you, this man hasn't lost it, he's done everything he was supposed to do but still the court punishes him and rewards this alcoholic, promiscious, witch. I'm pretty sure he hasn't called his kids names but I can say that he has called the wife a few.
So you are one of the lucky ones, she wasn't able to pull of the alienation thing, she might not have had the intellect. You won and hopefully, your children won and you're a little smug with it.
As I said, it isn't alright to call your kid a pig, but when you've been pushed to the edge by psychological tricks and parental alienation and the courts for 5 freakin' years, then you come and tell me that you have walked in his shoes. I'm not excusing what he did, I am understanding why he might have done it.
I hate thinking I am one of the lucky ones...but my kids are old enough in the eyes of the court to make up their own mind so witnesses aside, it all came down to what they wanted and my ex hated me for it every step of the way but honestly she treated them like possessions instead of people and she still does. She cant understand why they dont hate me like she does.
I know it seems like everything is set up against men and I know there is frustration out there. I just dont like it when a kid gets dumped on.