my solution is to buy some land, but I’m really not the richest person in the world either. just maybe 3 or 4 acres to get septic and get away from the neighbors.
You may well find that with three to four acres, some of the same problems obtain. As I noted earlier, when you move to a area where houses are on three to four acres, nothing prevents the guy next door to you from parking thirty-seven rusting trucks on his property or tuning motorcycles at 7 on a Sunday morning. Believe me, three acres is not enough to separate you from annoying neighbors. Even 25 acres may not be enough.
And if you think there are no social problems in the country, think again. There is definitely crime: most rural people will tell you in outrage that they do have to lock their doors and leave a big dog on the premises, to avoid having their houses and tack rooms burglarized. There may be no gangs in the country, but country kids do just as many drugs and drink almost as much as suburban kids. It's the parenting and the nature of modern schools, not the location. When I proposed moving to the sticks to get my kids away from bad influences in the suburbs, I was dismayed to find that there were drug and alcohol problems in schools way out in the country.
And nothing prevents the suburbs from coming to you! When we built our house nearly twenty years ago, it was out in the country. Now the suburbs have come up to surround it.
Because of ethanol, farm prices are not falling precipitously in many areas, so it's really not easy to find a good piece of property with good neighbors. You have to exercise extreme caution in buying rural or semi-rural land.
But good luck to us both.