I’m ELCA but was schooled in Missouri Synod. My beliefs all pretty much line up with the latter except that I’m fine with female ministers and communion open to any baptized person. I know ELCA’s much more liberal, but my congregation, which I dearly love, is about as conservative as you could get.
She is United Methodist. I’ve been to several services at her church and found the sermons to be fine and not objectionable, though I still prefer my Lutheran services. A cool thing thing, actually, is that she went to a Lutheran school, and as such is familiar with our services and beliefs. If she were to move down to be near me, I think she would fit in quite well at my church.
As for UMC beliefs, I’m sure the national church is probably a lot more liberal than her congregation as well. How much of it she agrees with is just one of those things I’ll be working on. I’m having lunch with my pastor tomorrow, and we’ll probably cover this.
Find out what her view on abortion is, or ask her if she believes any religion except Christianity can make it to Heaven.
Her response to the abortion question will be very telling. My view is that a pro-abortion woman is not an acceptable spouse.
The question about Christianity will determine if you two are equally yoked. Essential, IMHO, in a marriage.
Also, what does she think about the wives and husbands verses from Ephesians 5?