Beretta Tomcat, hands down. You don’t even have to operate the slide with that one; .32 caliber. It was made with women like yourself in mind.
Ditto on the tomcat and .32 acp.
The Tomcat is a POS. Put anything other than full jackets through it and it stove pipes. I wouldn't let my wife near one if her life depended on it.
Ladysmith with low grain soft points. That is all I would ever reccommend to anyone with smaller hands.