LOL! True. I found myself being the “feminist” type, too. WTH?
It helped (in my case) that my two oldest were reading different books in the series and asking each other questions and laughing while reading. The two youngest have read at least 2 of the series.
Anyway, I don’t think all teens are finding it romantic, other than once the first movie was released and Edward or Jacob was HOT in their minds because of the actors who played the characters.
I like to think that most teens realize this is fiction/entertainment.
I had a discussion with another mother who also read the books and I kept saying how Bella was an insipid little twit and Edward was spooky. She said I was jaded and told me to stop viewing the story from the perspective of a middle aged woman and to think of it as an escape/fantasy/fiction that it is. So I did and still think Bella is whiney, annoying and an insipid little twit and Edward is spooky.
My cousin is a single adult woman. She can be foolish. My niece and her friends are way too invested in it, IMO. But I'm not her mother :)