“When she called she told me I was going to “hate” her and not to judge her.”
Telling someone not to “judge” them is an admission that they are guilty in their own mind. The problem with society today is that their isnt enough judging. We need more judging, not less.
I think we need more of the use of good judgement. Judging means a condemnation of the person. Judgement discerns good, helpful actions from bad, harmful actions. Her sister doesn't have to tolerate her dating the man who killed her other sister. She can hate what she's doing without hating her (which may even be what her sister wants most out of the deal).
The problem with society today is that their isnt enough judging. We need more judging, not less.
You forgot to mention adequate punishments.