Posted on 06/17/2011 7:45:25 PM PDT by chasio649
Almost 50 when I married. I have a two year old, 4th anniversary will be celebrated on a 14 day cruise and all is well.
I was never married before and not the kind who ever would cheat.
Um, we're right here. All it takes is an email. :)
Well thank you. But take a look at the rest of this thread and you'll see what a woman is up against. I can't tell you how depressing this thread is to a conservative woman. Your choices come down to being a skank with liberal men or sitting at home on Saturday night because fortysomething conservative men have decided that just because you have a career and you're their age, you're a feminist, in menopause and "American Women Suck." I know that's an oversimplification but really, take a look at where this thread goes. 42 year old men passing on 38 year old women because of "biology" (what happens when you marry the 25 year old and find out your sperm count is too low?you've married a brood mare who will still be young when you're getting old...often a recipe for disaster) and others suggesting Asian brides for hire. Marriage is supposed to be asupportive, nuturing relationship between two who regard each other as having different strengths and roles to play but equal as partners. The relationships being proposed on this thread...aren't that at all.
Possibly much of this is because people are just in the wrong places to find compatible mates. Or are looking IN the wrong places.
Urban centers of populations are liberal bastions. Conservative men and women are just waiting to get burned by moderate or liberals “that look good” and are “fun to be around”. But death to be married to.
Rural populations and smaller towns on the other hand may have slimmer pickings but on average may have better quality folks.
But in either case if you’re meeting people in bars and clubs you’re not going to find top quality there, typically.
I am 42, never married, go to church 75% of the Sundays, cook, clean, great job, advanced degrees, and single.
I wasted time on women that ended up as bad relationships. They ended before marriage, and I consider myself lucky to have had friends wake me up to a bad decision before it happened.
Dating now seems harder because women do think there is something wrong if you have not been married. It mostly seems that the single women have all the baggage. They run backround checks on you and check your credit report. You can tell by the questions they ask on a first date when they are trying to confirm details from the credit report.
The truth is that the current crop of “single” women are a bit narcissistic. A man that wants to get married and have kids is turned off by this behavior. I will eventually run into a woman that is a good fit and has the potential to be my partner in everything. Women that say there is something wrong with a guy over 40 that is single should ask herself why she is turning them off.
Not being married at 35, people start looking at you out of the corner of their eye.
I don't intend to sound cold-hearted, but if you are 42 and never married and no prospects, maybe you are part of the problem. There are lots of wonderful women in your age range. I also know a number of guys 40+ who are great guys, but have no idea how to communicate in an intimate level; and a woman who is worth seeking at that age has no interest in a guy who can't communicate.
Married at 16, divorced at 23, married at 28, separated at 43...raised four kids essentially alone and without support....years later am launching the last of the kids.
Like companionship and am looking for roommates for my big and wonderful house. Kinda like college but with money. Plan to do all the things I have wanted to do for years, travel, make soap, have a big garden, have big entertaining dinners with friends, and be creative.
I can’t wait.
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