Posted on 05/09/2012 9:38:16 PM PDT by fabian
I sat in the Hollywood, Ca. McDonald's eating my meal as I watched an apparently single young mom berating her young son several seats next to me. He was young, maybe seven or eight years old childish look of innocence still. But I feared that that look would be displaced with one of anger if his mom kept up that badgering diatribe on him; like you do this, you always do that, you are this and that...all negative words that I could see were her projection of anger that she most probably had for the father not being around. I went up and spoke to her, letting her know that he is not a bad kid and she needs to be more calm for him and that she could find that path at www.copingstratiegscd.com. I know that her reaction, while muted, is the type of defensiveness that often keeps people from speaking up to bullies, wherever the are in our lives. I just remained patient and know that the look of "thank you, you are right" look on the boy's face made what I did a blessing to him and not forgotten. I pray that he will be ok, but I know what it is like to be raised by an emotional mom without dad being around to at least modify that anger. The thing is, that many millions of men bail out and leave the rearing of the kids souls to mom, but she is set up to, and can hardly help herself, from resenting the father and passing that automatically down to the kids, especially the males. We, as humans, are already predicated for resentment by the original sin, but for cowardly men to just leave the families, no matter how difficult it is to stick around, is the very reason America is falling badly, not to mention the world. Yes, the cause of so much anger is the vessels of angry women, but the real FAULT lies with the men as they are the God ordained leaders of the world and families. So how can blame be cast on the feminizing of America, without including the real root reason for that? It is like Adam once again blaming Eve rather than seeing and admitting that it was ultimately his fault as he was the one directly spoken to by God, not his mate. She really did what she was compelled to do, and it was Adam's job to say no, or to go along and then God's plan of redemption would play out. But the blame lies squarely on Adam, or did, just as it does now with men for the women taking too much control of many societies. So don't go blaming women for "taking over, and control" in many places of power. Rather, blame the men for opening those doors with your own ego and inflated sexual needs as the true reasons for our failing nation!
Give her a break. /sarc She’s taking out the hatred she has for her ex-husband on the offspring he made with her. So what else is new?
Not a lot..but very bad for the men not to deal with that anger and leave! Cowardly stuff...
I think your happy meal must have been drugged.
It’s difficult for a pair of pants to live with a dress that bought into stealing the pants.
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No, I don’t think so! What did I write that is incorrect?
God help such boys as they grow and begin to look like the fathers their mothers hate so much.
So true, Fabian! You’ve reminded me to catch Roy Masters again.. Been too long since I’ve listened to him. Keep speeding the Truth! :)
Thank you. Nice to hear from you.
Not bad, when the oldest one is only 9.
I just wish I lived closer to them, and we'd work on French, Spanish, and Latin. ;)
/johnny
Thank God...very nice!
whoops! mispelled that very important site! www.copingstrategiescd.com
But I don't think it can be blamed on the father, absent or not. I have seen this type of behavior in intact families. Mothers should not psychologically abuse their kids. Period.
Yes, but it is ultimately the man’s leadership role to step in, however he can. The problem is that that resentment is greatly inflated often when the man just leaves, which happens to millions of families. The woman can, with a deep wanting to find God, overcome that and obviously has some responsibility...but the main blame still belongs on the man.
Nor should fathers.
One of my son-in-laws is a very busy man, and somewhat distant emotionally, as he spent 2 tours in the sandbox at the tip of the spear.
But when he spends time with the kids, he spends time with the kids. Those will be memories they carry with them forever.
On the flip side, dear Lord help them on any major infraction. The rules are clear, and are always enforced immediately.
And then it's over.
/johnny
Hello there...
What good became of the women's liberation movement? Nothing. It was bad for marriages, men, real women, sons and daughters, not to mention home prices.
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Thank you...
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