I saw a criminal mind being created.

the light | 5/09/12 | fabian

[fabian]

Yes...because father is like God to some degree for the young kids...or the rep for God.

[fabian]

That is funny...silly, but funny.

[Lazamataz]

That is funny...silly, but funny.

I think you have summed ME up, right there.

[fabian]

Yes, and thank you..bless you too.

[SMARTY]

When I was little, it was God, Jesus Christ, my Dad ... in THAT order

[fabian]

Thank you much! I will save it in that format.

[tedw]

I wasn’t suggesting that Rush is a mysoginist.

[tedw]

I wasn’t suggesting that Rush is a mysoginist.

[fabian]

Yes, there is a lot of pain for sure. Patience and allowing those little resentments to pass is really the key to life. But it is harder when we are little, so I wrote that to be helpful, especially to the children of angry parents and to single moms.

[My hearts in London - Everett]

They may be “highly respectable”, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t suffer from dealing with the depression and self-loathing it creates within you.

[Smokin' Joe]

Combine a mental illness with no father figure, and you have a recipe for diasaster.

Consider that the courts are often willing to listen to those so afflicted while deciding against the father in custody battles, the courts doom children to this sort of exposure, and often with the blessings and assistance of Social Service Agencies who know they will have an enduring caseload as a result.

I won't say the fathers don't willingly leave such a union if it was ever formalized, just that they have little chance of taking their children with them, even if their situation makes that economically possible.

It has been my experience that many of those who constantly use all or nothing statements are afflicted with some form of substance abuse as well, making a sustained relationship with the mother exceedingly difficult or impossible. However, liberals as well tend to use such all or nothing statements in normal discourse, and those in the Social Services industry tend to sympathize, especially with those who know just what the Social Workers want to hear.

At the base of all of that is a cultural morality which trivializes the very relationships, momentary or 'permanent', which lead to offspring. A longer courtship may have precluded the liaison. When we address the moral issues which underlie situations like the one that child is in, perhaps there will be fewer children in those situations.

The 'anything goes/if it feels good, do it' moral standard has been immensely destructive in ways we won't understand until those who study such things can be completely honest about the results.

[fabian]

ok, thanks

[fabian]

wow...let us speak openly to these people to try and stop the abuse whenever possible! The www.copingstrategiescd.com is a perfect tool to share and it is free to listen to.

[fabian]

Yes, it is the key in our minds..to separate from the evil that tries to work through our minds. www.copingstrategiescd.com!

[fabian]

That is good...

[Darren McCarty]

I really don't like the "criminal mind" terminology being used to describe an 8 year old. I know your point and agree strongly that environment, especially family environment has a big impact on individuals and influences them.

A lot of people grow up in tough situations. Most aren't criminals (unless they touch hard drugs).

[fabian]

Yes, and in that dictionary there is a secondary meaning right next to the first which is also understood and it is not as heavy as hatred. I think it is splitting hairs to differentiate between some anger and hatred to be honest. But I prefer to write in such a way as to being about some understanding , rather than to just cause a stir or incite people to react. That is why I used that word rather than “hates women”...I think it is clear to awake people that the youtube we know is the subject that I used that word in, is very much blaming women with no explaination of men's fault in it all which is critical! But that was not the reason I wrote my article, which has gotten quite a response, thank God.

[fabian]

well...being created...means the process has begun, but can be stopped or modified. That is why I spoke to the lady. Yes, it is really the degree or lack of resentment for the abuser that will dertermine the mind of the abused ulitmatley.

[fabian]

What do you think?

[fabian]

bump!