Pennsylvania judge orders woman to stop breastfeeding

SFGate ^ | 11/14/2013 | Amy Graff

[Responsibility2nd]

A Pennsylvania woman is speaking out against a judge who ordered her to stop breastfeeding her 10-month-old daughter.

Jessica Moser is in the midst of a custody battle with her daughter Jasmine

[trussell]

I agree with you...she is trying to use this as an excuse to keep baby away from the father. She should have been more mature and said she could/would pump for his visits. Instead, it sounds like she is using it as a reason to deny the dad. Shame on her!

[drunknsage]

Beware the breast milk mafia. They will order their legion of white-knight, beta slaves after you.

[trisham]

This is dreadful. At ten months, which is more important to a child? There are methods of addressing this issue that do not involve keeping her from maintaining a relationship with her father. Imho, this mother is doing a very wrong thing here.

[driftdiver]

yeah well they better bring their support bras and know that I don’t allow breaks for nursing during the fight.

Breast feeding is the best option for most children and moms. Mommy screwed that up here.

[Onelifetogive]

What kind of a douche bag does this to his child?

Which part? Creating a child with someone who months later you can't work with to do what's in the best interest of the child? Creating a child with someone you aren't or won't live with? Creating a child who has to visit someone YOU are unwilling to visit?

The answer: BOTH of them!

[fr_freak]

I had to stop feeding the son due to thyroid issues and they burned my thyroid with iodine radiation. My son has JRA, Lymes disease and is not generally healthy.

If your son has Lyme disease, that has absolutely nothing to do with your not breast feeding him. Your kid got infected somewhere, probably by a carrier tick. How would breast feeding have saved him from that? And I wouldn't be surprised if the JRA is a result of the Lyme disease. People with chronic Lyme disease are generally unhealthy - that's what the disease does. I hope you've gotten him to a Lyme-literate doctor.

[trussell]

The JRA was before the lymes. Because of the JRA, he couldn’t fight the lymes with the antibiotics they gave him and it became permanent. Breast feeding could POSSIBLY have given him a stronger immune system and protected him from the JRA which I was told was caused by having strep throat that his father failed to treat him for.

As for a Lymes literate doctor, what should I look for in trying to find one that is better in treating that condition? I’m having trouble getting proper treatment for him, and he suffers terrible headaches and muscle pains!

[yldstrk]

Well, he could marry the mother get a job and support everybody, that way mom could breastfeed, he could see the child and the child could grow up secure, just like God intended

[yldstrk]

you are being mean

All the studies show that breastfed children are the healthiest as far as antibodies and that breastfed children do not struggle with obesity

so there

[yldstrk]

I had one child that weaned himself about 8 months, another that I thought I was going to die if she didn’t stop, finally when she was about 2 I told her it was all gone. But my kids are healthy as horses and none is fat.

[driftdiver]

Takes two

[Responsibility2nd]

I’ll match your studies with 10 times more studies that show children from normal intact families are less likely to commit crime, more likely to get a better education, more likely to earn more, and are better off in many other different ways. Now and in the future.

The trouble is... in this case, the poor kid is already screwed. At 10 months old, she has idiots for parents. And like you just said; unless the parents get married and raise the kid like a normal child, the breastfeeding issues really won’t matter.

[fr_freak]

As for a Lymes literate doctor, what should I look for in trying to find one that is better in treating that condition?

Things have been changing over the last 10 years from when I first researched all this stuff, but a big part of the problem with getting treatment for chronic Lyme disease is that mainstream medical thinking was that chronic Lyme disease didn't exist. Up until a few/several years ago, the CDC listed treatment for Lyme disease as 2 weeks of doxycycline, then everything will be fine! But many, many people were discovering that the two weeks didn't do a thing. Meanwhile, most doctors were simply taking the CDC's thinking as gospel, and refusing to consider the possibility of a long-term chronic infection.

However, doctors here and there, who were trying to treat these chronic patients, realized that the conventional thinking about the disease was wrong and set about determining their own course of treatment (usually heavy, long-term antibiotic use), often placing their industry reputations at risk for bucking the mainstream thinking. Those are the "Lyme literate" doctors, because they have real world experience with treatment instead of going by some glossy CDC pamphlet and claiming that it's all in your head when the two weeks of doxy doesn't do squat.

I don't know how much research you've already done (some of this you may already know), but here are a couple of links that can help you out:

A write-up on the Lyme doctor situation:
http://www.chroniclymedisease.com/llmd-referrals

This one is a support group/discussion forum, but can have a lot of good info:
http://flash.lymenet.org/scripts/ultimatebb.cgi

Bear in mind that, this being the internet, you'll have to sift through a lot of junk as well as good info.

Unfortunately, I have a pretty good amount of experience with this sort of research, so if you're interested, you can shoot me a private message and I'll talk to you further about it, so we don't clutter the thread.

[ConradofMontferrat]

The judge is placing the child at risk for his own agenda.

And what's your agenda?

I'm reading your posts, and I wonder why you hate men so much!

There really are two sides to every story. You seem to be fixated on only one.

[goodwithagun]

As an overproducer I average about 6 oz. a day to the freezer. At 10 months my kids were drinking about 24 oz. per day since they were eating 2 puree servings as well. That means I would need 8 days to produce enough milk for one weekend. The math does not work. Maybe she’ll be lucky and be a super-duper overproducer?

[21twelve]

Our girls were preemies and in the hospital for 6 weeks and on IV. My wife had to pump to keep the supply going, and has we weened them onto breast milk. Between our upstairs and downstairs freezers, and two of the neighbor’s freezers there was never a shortage!

Even once they were home, with two of them it was one on a breast for a bit while the other on a bottle, and then switch them halfway through! (I look fondly back at the photos of those days ignoring the reality of it all!)

[driftdiver]

So you’d rather prevent your daughter from seeing her father?

BTW there are ways to increase what you produce.

[goodwithagun]

From what I’ve researched, I’m producing near the max. I’m sure there are freaky producers out there, but what are the odds of her being one? The point is that a judge should not be making this decision. I’d like to know who filed for divorce. If it’s the father then he could have stuck it out until his daughter was weaned. If he can’t stick it out because his wife is abusive then he should have filed for full custody.

[Hoodat]

"If I were that kid, I would breast feed until I was 18."

[GeronL]

and there are some crazy women who would let you too