Yes, women want get back the same level of emotional intensity that they’re putting out, to show you really care.
I don't. My husband is my anchor. I respect him for that. If he lost it every time I lost it, what have we accomplished? I know he loves me enough to weather my rare bout of insanity with grace, dignity, and humor. Of course, things are a whole lot calmer around our place now that we're done with menopause. :-)