FRiend, you are obviously a world-class Master of Obfuscation, and should be rightly proud of your skills.
Regardless, facts are still facts.
We are having this discussion because pro-Confederates often claim that: "only 6%" (or some similarly small number) of Southerners owned slaves, and therefore, "slavery" was not their motivation for fighting the Civil War.
There are, of course, numerous problems with that assertion, and...
So: when that young son said he was fighting to preserve "our way of life", he certainly did include his right to own slaves.
Here is the important point in this: a state's commitment to the cause of Confederacy was directly proportional to the percentage of its households which owned slaves.
BroJoeK,
If the census statistics are correct that ~40% of people in the southern states were slaves, and that was a fairly constant number from state to state, then there is a problem with your assertion that higher percentages of whites owned slaves in the deep south than the upper south.
The issue is that the very, very large plantations, held and run by single families were much more common in the deep south. These large plantations would have hundreds, even thousands of slaves. Pure math would then lead to the conclusion that you had fewer owners of larger numbers of slaves in the deep south and more owners of smaller numbers of slaves in the upper south.
In reference to your overall presumptions, IF your 6% figure is correct and only applied to heads of households, you still have to have an extremely large average family size to get to 50% of whites being in a slave holding family. If the average number of slaves held was only 2, then only 33% of white families could have owned slaves, before the supply was exhausted. And the average was a lot higher than 2.
Before you get too preachy, do the simple math.