[aposiopetic]

I agree with firebrand. I don’t think anyone here is going to say there are easy solutions. The good thing is that you love your daughter and want to do what is best for her.

[MacMattico]

That is a perspective that never occurred to me. I will keep it in mind, try to help her as much as possible, and adjust my own behavior and expectations. Thank you. May I ask why you think an IQ of 81 isn't really a problem and how with her grades etc things are ok?

[acapesket]

Why don’t you consider technical school? Although I have no
idea how that works pre-j.h.
I have a relative who is a SPED director and she constantly tells me that the “battle Moms” get the iep’s,
Many prayers for you.