We’re homeschooling, so I have no advice for the school issues themselves. But I did want to share this thought.
First, your daughter sounds like a delightful *person*, and that by itself is worth gold! She could be the opposite, you know — bright as a whip but mean and spiteful. Instead she’s lovely and good, and that’s worth an awful lot.
My thought is that though of course you want her to do well in school, you should also be thinking about what she can do with her entire life. For instance, I am not sure trig is going to be a terribly useful information set for her to learn. But maybe she has less intellectual but still valuable skills that she could use to make a living (or if not actually a living, then at least make herself happy by being useful and busy). For instance, is she clever with her hands? Does she have a good eye for color? Can she draw well? I wonder if some sort of trade or craft might be her ticket. For example, I have a friend who has always been artsy-craftsy but couldn’t seem to make a living from it. But in this last year she bought a spinning wheel and took lessons on how to use it. She also contacted alpaca owners and got raw wool from them. Now she is dyeing and spinning some really beautiful and unusual yarns (with things like gold and sparkly beads worked into the yarn) and it’s selling like hotcakes on Etsy and at farmers markets that she takes it to. She is well on her way (finally) to becoming financially independent, and although what she does takes shrewdness and judgment, as well as an artistic sense, she doesn’t have to remember numbers or anything like that. She’s a craftsperson now and she loves it.
Anyway, I just wanted to remind you to look for and help develop any special talents your daughter may have. Looking so hard at what’s missing, sometimes it’s hard to see the good things that are there already. Best of luck!!!
My daughter is a wonderful person, don’t get me wrong. I love her with all my heart and anyone that comes in contact with her is completely drawn to her personality. It is one of her greatest assets. She is the sweetest, most helpful person in this household! She is willing, and has, helped anyone who needs it in anyway she can.
She does love to work with her hands and be active. In NY we have BOCES, which is technical education, but still certain courses must be passed to graduate and I’m afraid that her social skills will allow her to be taken advantage of monetarily and in every other way. She went to a play with school and they stopped on the way back to get dinner. She was so excited to be with friends and buy her own food at a rest area! We gave her a $20 bill. She had used $10 of it at the play for a souvenir and had $10 left. Another student had no money. They kept complaining they were hungry. With a big heart she bought them dinner, leaving no money for herself. She went ten hours without eating. I had went through every scenario with her on how to make sure she would have money to eat. I even said if the situation arose where she wanted to help someone, get a teacher to help her figure out the money situation. Instead she just gave it all away.
There are MANY, MANY, fields this young lady could support herself in life doing without trigonometry ect. ect., wedding cake bakery, floral
design, landscape design, interior design, there are many creative fields
she could choose and have a small business of her own!!!! I was never
great at math, science, I did love history and English but my true passion
was in the food industry!!!! I LOVE TO BAKE and have had very successful small businesses doing just that!!!!
I think you will find a VERY creative streak in this child if you just lighten
up and search it out!!!! Maybe she is NOT meant for college but a culinary
Type of school. A wedding cake today costs about $500.00-$1000.00
many states have cottage kitchen laws where cup cakes and wedding cakes can be made and sold from your own home!!!!
There are many options for this child STOP WORRYING and search out
her passions!!!!!