Be very careful to understand why you wish to become more involved in your church. At first glance, that may sound strange coming from an Evangelical but, it is easy to get heavily involved in church as a way to subconsciously try to 'earn' our way into God's love. Even 'church' can become an idol, if the object of the adoration is 'church', rather than God.
You might wish to check out Dr. Grant Mullen. He is a Christian doctor from Ontario, who has become expert on treating mood disorders, such as depression. Here is a link to comments he made at the Healing Life's Hurts conference at (surprisingly) Toronto Airport Fellowship.
I will also PM you on some other things that came to mind, in reading your comments.
May God bless you and watch over you and heal all addictive and depressive thoughts and actions and draw you and your hubby closer to Him, healing all marital issues.
You will get no advice from me because I don’t have a clue what anyone should or shouldn’t do....
I do however know a lot of alcoholics ( why I don’t know)...I was even married to one once....some of the alcoholics I know are dead, some are still alive ....Years ago I watched a 20 year old girl drink herself to death. It didn’t take her long at all
From what Ive seen alcohol is a lot rougher on women. Most of the live alcoholics I know went to AA ....most of them still go to AA....the dead ones don’t go so much anymore but I guess that is understandable
last some of the alcoholics I know were at the absolute bottom..It is absolutely amazing to see them alive and sober.... Knowing them when they were drunk I would never have thought it was possible ...but it is
Sorry my post was addressed to the wrong proud Canadian/ American