[Ghost of SVR4]

Blah..blah.blahblahblah..Quit drinking. Find your local AA and ALANON. If you can’t do that, don’t bother posting.

[proud American in Canada]

‘Blah..blah.blahblahblah..Quit drinking. Find your local AA and ALANON. If you can’t do that, don’t bother posting.’

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Thanks, guy. You just reminded me why I never wanted to speak to people here, knowing I’d be blasted.

However, I know, and believe, that there many people who have seen my post and perhaps will realize that others are in the same boat. So if I’ve embarrassed myself, so be it. I will do as you suggest, as I have done before. It is a lifelong struggle.

In any case, take care.

Julie

[BenLurkin]

Blah..blah.blahblahblah..Quit drinking. Find your local AA and ALANON. If you can’t do that, don’t bother posting.

What the hell is wrong with you?

[Chode]

her problem is prolly solvable, you on the other hand are an azz, and there's no fix for that...

[Tx Angel]

That was just rude and uncalled for.

Julie, best of luck to you. I wish I had the answer.

[piytar]

Scum

[tomkat]

Ghost, just an fyi: FR awards no @hole points.

Having said that, however:

Julie, find an AA group near you and tell them just what you've told us.
Given a modicum of willingness, those ordinary people have an uncanny way of turning fear into miracles.

One day at a time, darlin' . . .

[octex]

Blah..blah.blahblahblah..Quit drinking. Find your local AA and ALANON. If you can’t do that, don’t bother posting.
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That was a very rude and non-FReeper type of response to someone who is honest and seeking advice about her problem.

Shame on you!

[mountainfolk]

My response to the alchohlic poster would be a close copy of yours, given the various people I have encountered over the years who wasted my time and good intentions to help. It is always a dicey situation. There are those who use their self inflicted addictions to continue a way of life which keeps them using their permanent excuse for irresponsible behavior, and those who stumble into addictions for one or another reason, grief probably dominant. It is very frustrating to watch self destruction whatever the situation.

I have known two individuals who changed their lives almost over night by turning to God and spiritual sources for help. It was not just the alcohol at fault, but a general perversion of enjoying the feeling of being injured and wanting sympathy. For a host of reasons. Other alcoholics died earlier or lived their last years in rotten health and still looking for sympathy from the few people who any longer cared.

There are many good posts offering help for the Canadian poster and I sincerely hope she makes a real effort to consider all of them. People do care about another persons misery. I also hope that she is honest about the part she seems to blame on a husband who appears to be royally fed up with the hell she is putting him through and the better life the whole family is foregoing because of her addiction to personal escape from responsibility.

It is not uncharitable to have a non sympathetic response to addictive behavior. Many of us have been there and done that. We too have to separate ourselves from those who would make our lives as messy as theirs. Prayers yes. That is it for me.

[trisham]

If that’s the best you can offer, don’t bother posting.