Parents, you are the primary educators of your children. Responsibility for their education rests squarely on your shoulders.
The school did right to expel the child, as the relationship between the mother and the school was not a right relationship, and thus, it was inappropriate for the child to stay in the school. It wasn’t mean, or petty. It was an honest action. One that demonstrates the good faith of the school.
When you choose not to homeschool your children, and to send them to a traditional school, you are engaging that school to be your partner in the education and formation of your children. If the school takes their mission seriously - to be the primary resource of the parents in educating the parents’ children, then there are certain conditions that must be met, a certain relationship that must come into existence between the school and the parents.
The first necessary ingredient in the relationship must be trust, and that trust must go in both directions. The parents must have some basic trust in the school that the school will do its best to educate and form the child properly. And the school must trust the parents that they will work cooperatively with the school, will abide by the policies of the school, will be in broad, general agreement with the philosophy of the school as the primary resource of the parents in educating and forming the parents’ child[ren].
This doesn’t mean that there are never differences of opinion between the school and the parents, or that those differences may be, from time to time, sharp, or that the either school or parents are immune to criticism.
It DOES mean that differences are addressed directly and confidentially.
If, as parents, you find yourselves incapable of directly and confidentially addressing problems, it’s time to do something different.
From the school’s perspective, they can’t really succeed with your kid if the relationship is adversarial and openly hostile. Maintaining their own integrity as an institution required them to invite the family not to return with their child.
“as the relationship between the mother and the school was not a right relationship,”
I will buy that. I still say the school was petty though, because the mother paid a lot of money for the child to be there. When one pays a lot one expects more. The mom should have chosen a school, how do I say it? One that she connected with. She did not connect with this school.
At the very least she deserves a refund.