It’s the old, tried and true...”If you don’t use it, YOU LOSE IT!” story. I happen to believe that.
Not that I’d cheat...but once every couple of years patronizing me on my birthday just doesn’t work.
Married 35+ years...three great kids...5 grand kids.
My ex once said to a group of women in my presence: “Use sex as a weapon.”
It took me far to long afterwards to realize what evil that represented (among many others) and leave.