Posted on 01/08/2015 10:13:52 AM PST by wastedyears
Pray America is waking
Thanks for your reply.
True - although I get to fly the boring legs .... and do a landing when the PIC’s too lazy.
The stupid white male.
Responsible for almost 100% of all innovation in all fields of endeavor.
Men are not smarter. They are driven in a way that the vast majority of women are not.
It’s the T, mostly....
I remember an America’s Funniest Videos episode...a mom was video taping her kids, she told one to get up on top of the couch - to JUMP on her husbands nuts who was sleeping on it. When the kid jumped the guy was in obvious pain.
The audience laughed, the mom laughed, it was shown on TV as “funny”. I could only shake my head...on what planet is that funny? It certainly would not be if the gender roles were reversed. Domestic abuse anyone?
Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son is the calamity of his father; And the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to live in a desert land Than with a contentious and vexing woman.
Proverbs 27:15 A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm;
Did I miss the part where she apologized to him for mistreating him for years? I must have overlooked it.
That's how it started. I launched into him. I berated him for not being smarter. Why would he not get the more healthy option? Did he even read the labels? Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right? Also, and the thing I was probably most offended by, why wasn't he more observant? How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do?
THE VERY FIRST TIME she did this, he should have calmly stopped everything in its tracks, sat her down and discussed her attitude. He should have pointed out that her specific concerns and issues were absolutely nothing - nothing - compared to the angry, insulting, contemptuous, arrogant, abusive and utterly disrespectful attitude she was taking towards him. He should have pointed out that such an attitude was her real reason for getting upset over trivialities - to provide and excuse for expressing abuse. He should have also said that he does not deserve such scathing contempt, by her or by anyone else, but especially by her. And then, if she didn't apologize, express understanding of the actual issue and promise not to repeat it (up to and including getting psychological help if she couldn't stop), he should have left her, up to and including getting a divorce.
What she did did was THAT bad. And she did it because she's a feminist, and her "sisters" all do it and require each other to do it, because it reinforces their contempt for men, and inevitably results in divorce or utterly crushed men who end up deserving contempt for their rejection if their own manhood. And so they practice abuse to invoke responses they can hold in contempt, from victims who are NOT cowed by them, but rather horrified and dismayed by the emotional rape they are perpetrating when they indulge in their abuse addiction.
This is not a mere "relationship problem" - this woman, and women like her, are spiritual poison. If they won't change, then get away from them. No matter what it costs to get away, because it's nothing close to what it will cost to stay. These women are spiritual berserkers who have given their allegiance to the feminist collective and who, in doing so, have already abandoned their families. They WILL destroy everyone they know, in the same way an alcoholic will. They are NOT what they claim to be - they are hateful liars, looking for victims. And they get their strength from their collective "sisters" who all reinforce each other.
This isn't a paranoid rant - it's the sober truth.
Sober or buzzed, I will be over the nagging in a flash.
“I do it she has the nerve to complain - I just look at her with a smile and say “Do it your damn self.”
I should be like that - I just stop doing it.
Actually, it's a verb, noun, and adjective. I lean over to touch my toes. That building has a lean. That's some lean beef. Lean is also further defined as a noun in that it is "the part of the flesh that consists of muscle rather than fat"
I hear you and in most cases I agree. But there are some instances in which paying attention to details is important. For instance, if you ask your wife what she wants for her birthday and she tells you with important detail like size or measurement, and then you get one that is wrong just to look like you got her one, she will feel like it wasn't getting a gift, but just another errand she will have to run to get something she actually wants.
If she asked for an item in a certain measurement and even said "ONLY" that size when you asked her, but you got another measurement because you didn't really want to go to another store or go online to get the right one, she may feel taken for granted, or that you don't value the relationship.
As for the housework complaints, that's a long but important negotiation and couples usually sort it out by who cares the most about a given task to do it well enough.
Then why did you marry him? So you could change him?
"Funny how? Like, I'm a clown, or funny ha-ha?"
This topic resonates with me. My wife used to criticize how I did things such as dishes and laundry. I felt like I was judged by an ever shifting groups of criteria as to what was expected of me in different situations.
We never separated. We stayed married. I’m widowed now. But looking back I feel like her perfectionist controlling behavior caused a lot of unnecessary conflict over inconsequential matters.
How did you get so smart? Well done!
LOL. That was my thought in response to that pic as well.
That's how it started. I launched into him. I berated him for not being smarter. Why would he not get the more healthy option? Did he even read the labels? Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right? Also, and the thing I was probably most offended by, why wasn't he more observant? How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do? "
THE VERY FIRST TIME she did this, he should have calmly stopped everything in its tracks, sat her down and discussed her attitude. He should have pointed out that her specific concerns and issues were absolutely nothing - nothing - compared to the angry, insulting, contemptuous, arrogant, abusive and utterly disrespectful attitude she was taking towards him. He should have pointed out that such an attitude was her real reason for getting upset over trivialities - to provide and excuse for expressing abuse. He should have also said that he does not deserve such scathing contempt, by her or by anyone else, but especially by her. And then, if she didn't apologize, express understanding of the actual issue and promise not to repeat it (up to and including getting psychological help if she couldn't stop), he should have left her, up to and including getting a divorce.
What she did did was THAT bad. And she did it because she's a feminist, and her "sisters" all do it and require each other to do it, because it reinforces their contempt for men, and inevitably results in divorce or utterly crushed men who end up deserving contempt for their rejection if their own manhood. And so they practice abuse to invoke responses they can hold in contempt, from victims who are NOT cowed by them, but rather horrified and dismayed by the emotional rape they are perpetrating when they indulge in their abuse addiction.
This is not a mere "relationship problem" - this woman, and women like her, are spiritual poison. If they won't change, then get away from them. No matter what it costs to get away, because it's nothing close to what it will cost to stay. These women are spiritual berserkers who have given their allegiance to the feminist collective and who, in doing so, have already abandoned their families. They WILL destroy everyone they know, in the same way an alcoholic will. They are NOT what they claim to be - they are hateful liars, looking for victims. And they get their strength from their collective "sisters" who all reinforce each other.
This isn't a paranoid rant - it's the sober truth.
A couple of phrases in the excerpt you posted jumped out at me. They claim their abuse is justified because their husbands aren't mind readers, and haven't worshiped the ground that they walk on:
I berated him for not being smarter....Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right?....How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do?--------
Now the men who were holding Jesus in custody were mocking him as they beat him.
They also blindfolded him and kept asking him, “Prophesy! Who is it that struck you?”
- Luke 22:63-64
Wow.
At that point, as much as I'd want to unload with both anger-barrels, the best comment would be to utterly calmly and quietly say: Who are you? Who do you want to be? Because all I see is an ungrateful, ungracious person, full of ugly selfishness.
Then turn around and walk away.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Let it be and carry on.
I love that movie, although I confess that the music helps.
However, by the end it’s made clear that the new wife is a sweetheart, which everyone recognizes, and they all feel ashamed of how they treated her.
It’s about human frailty, friendship and humour. Not really so bad.
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